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writes:hey everyone. Well im asking for my sister. She came to me for advice and I don't know what to do. She is 13 and in the 7th grade. She liked some kid in her grade so she started to flirt with him. Well she came home today crying and when I asked her what was wrong she said she would only tell me if i promised not to tell our mom.My sister is very tough and only cries if something was seroiuse so i agreed. She said the boy that she liked was catching on to her about liking him but he wants to be physical. She said all day that he was coming up to her and touching her inapropreatly, and some other things. She doesn't want to tell anyone because she has feelings for him and doesn't want him to get hurt. Well, i know i should tell our parents but she confided in me, and im going to feel aweful either way. And what has me worried is my sister is very small, and the boy is rather tall so...he could easily over power her. I don't know what to do. Im definaatly telling our mother, but what if that doens't work. god i want to quick this kids butt for doing this please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): Ummm well this is me again I wanted to leave you guys an update but wasn't sure how. Well I tried talking to the boy but he was very rude so I tried my sister. I took her out shopping so it woudln't be so obviouse. We talked about why she needed to stay away from guys like that, and that I woudl really like for her to tell mom. She didn't wan to but she said if I went with her she would. Well after shopping we went home and told our mother. She called the school and the boys parents and they had a meeting the other day for it. I don't think the boy will bother her again. So thanks so much. =)
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reader, Just_keep_swimming  +, writes (24 January 2008):
Thats a tricky one!! Trust is easy to lose and hard to regain, and if she has confided in you, you need to respect that. Dont just go off and tell you mum, ask your sister to tell her, but offer to be there with her when she does it. Give your sister the oppurtunity of sorting this out by talking to the boy herself, but help her decide what she's going to say, and what shes going to do if he doesnt respect her choices. Hope it all works out!!!
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reader, hello1 +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Well I got a little sister, If I was in your situation I would do two things, tell my parents as they deserve to know, your sister still very young and she's in a problem that she can't deal with. Then go to that boy, he obviously hasn't been taught not to touch girls in that way. Tell him that your report him to the police and school if he dosen't leave your sister alone. Yes I know you promised not to say anything, but your her older sister and your really going to have to help her in this! step up and be a good sister.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 If you want to handle this problem without any adult help, you could go to that boy and speak to him about this matter.You could tell him that it is serious and may report him to the police.If it can be resolved, good, But if it happens again , you will have to inform your mom about it and let her handle him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
You are right to tell your parents hunny, Tell your sister that you love her and you are very worried for her and you are going to tell your mum as this boy is being very cruel, He is talking advantage of the fact he knows your sister likes him to touch her inappropriately, She needs to be aware of this hunny, So that she knows he isnt the type of boy who would treat her nicely as he has already shown that, Putting like that may make her understand that he isnt as nice as she thinks I HOPE THINGS WORK OUT FOR YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Hi,
Perhaps you should talk to this guy on your own. Just tell him that although your little sister likes him, she is not at all ready for any of the other stuff. If you put it accross nicely, he may well respect that you are just looking out for her. If he doesnt like you telling him, and wont see your point then he has no respect for either you or your sister. Then I would tell you parents and let them deal with him.
XX Well done by the way, for looking out for her.
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