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writes:could someone explain this quote to me? what does it mean to let go of someone you love and if they come back then it is meant to be? would that fit into the categorie of someone leaving you for someone else then coming back to you and telling you that you are the one? Or is this an exceptio?. This happened to me and i was just wondering if it fit in that quote. And no im not going to decide my fate by this quote but as of right now ill take any advice i can get as far as deciding if im going to get back with her or not. Reply to this Question
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Well, sometimes, it's just not the right time for two people to be together. It can be for different reasons like one person not being ready or something that affects both like distance. There's a feeling of regret though at times because the bond didn't break because it wasn't strong but because circumstances weren't right. So, you "let go" even though it hurts you worse than anything. You have to be very careful when an ex comes back into your life. If your relationship ended because of things like cheating, lies, and/or abuse, and they come back, it's best not to take the bait. However, is what you're saying that she left you for someone and realized she missed you? It happens. But, in the end, there will be that ghost over shoulder, whispering that she may change her mind again...and then what? Live out your relationship in fear that she'll leave again? Why did she leave in the first place? What made her "see the light"? In that quote, I think "coming back" means fate brought you two back together. I don't think it means: "well the guy I was with didn't turn out so great so um, I should come back to you." Talk to her. Find out her thoughts, her motives, and don't make any quick decisions. Don't ignore your impressions, think your mind first because the heart may know what it wants but not always what it needs...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011): It can mean anything you want really but to me it means letting a person go traveling or something like that and ending the relationship purely on those grounds, you know to let one person take a different route in life and follow their dreams and sacrifice the relationship for that even though you both would still like to be together. Like if your girlfriend got a great offer that would completely change her career in a different country and further her along the path to her dream job, something too good to pass up but in which you can't go with her. So even though she really would love to remain together you decide it's best to let her go and pursue this instead, set her free to take this path in life and should your paths cross again, or circumstances change which would allow you to be together again and you do, then it was meant to be, even after all that time of not being together and you both still want to."would that fit into the categorie of someone leaving you for someone else then coming back to you and telling you that you are the one?"To me those circumstances don't apply to that quote, if someone leaves me for someone else then they're gone and I won't take them back. I don't compromise on this either.You see once someone leaves me for another person then I know they don't truly love me and only me, because they wanted someone else and even went and left me for them. If they want to come back then it's usually just a rebound, the new guy didn't turn out to be as cool, or they realized that they preferred being with me. But you don't just get a free pass on that as far as I'm concerned, you don't just get to go off and 'try out' other people to see if they're better and then expect me to take them back afterwards because they're not. It means I can't trust their heart, I know that in the future it will be possible for another person they like to come along and they may feel the need to go again.Basically I wasn't enough for them to want to stay in the first place and to me that means I can never be sure I'll ever be enough to stop them going again in the future. It's a pretty easy choice when you love someone, you never want to be with anyone else, if you do then that love just isn't strong enough to survive.Unless it's for the reasons I stated at the very beginning I would never consider getting back with an ex and definitely wouldn't give a girl who left me for someone else a second thought. They made their bed now they can lie in it. They don't just get to break my heart and get a free pass afterwards.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (25 April 2011):
 Eh, i think it can definitely relate to the situation you describe.I had the same thing happen to me. I was totally in love with a girl. After 2 years she said she needed some distance...I remembered that quote, and so gave her the distance. I waited, and waited and waited, but after a year.. I gave up..Of course, AFTER that she came back to me, but it was too late.Of course i think the whole situation becomes a bit different IF they cheated on you WHILE you were together. I would hope that a partner of mine would have the guts to tell me they needed some time away before going out and trying someone new, ya know?
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