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writes: I'm in a realtionship with someone I love very much. It got sexual pretty quick so that complicated things. Now he says he needs time to think about things but doesn't want to talk about them with me. What does that mean and what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): Angelicc has given you good, sound feedback.
How long have you been dating? Did you notice things happening between you that annoyed him, or caused minor-seeming problems? How about the way he behaved toward you? If there are tensions "under the surface" that bugged him, that could be why he won't talk to you about stuff, but wants to think about it. One of the secrets to a good relationship is OPEN, GOOD COMMUNICATION. BOTH of you being able to state what's on your mind (yet without getting angry or accusing one another, or putting him or you down).
Unfortunately, getting into sex too quickly DOES complicate things. Doesn't really give you much chance to see how well you get on together, and whether you have the same kinds of values, and interests and outlook on life. The "standard" recommendation is to wait until at least the fifth date before jumping into bed. If you don't feel ready even then, go on more dates. If a guy REALLY likes you and wants a good relationship with you, he will be willing to wait. EVEN THOUGH he's hot to trot.
Sorry to say, this doesn't sound good. If he does break up with you, please, regard it as something to learn from, and think about what you want and don't want in your next relationship!
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (20 July 2006):
 I think you should prepare yourself for a break up.
Think about things, means think about your relationship and the fact that he's not prepare to communcate with you means he wants to makes the descion on his own.
So prepare yourself i've heard thos words myself and nothing good came of them
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