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*acky30
writes:Heya fellasI recently broke up with my ex-girlfriend and need some help and advice. We met when we were both on vacation and stayed together for 10 days, then she left and came back to her country where 'luckily' i study there too. I came back a month and a half after she came back and we met once. When she was back and I was still on vacation we were talking mostly through the internet and very few times through texts. We had an argument in that period that I acted possessory and pushy, indeed i did, i apologised a lot for it. She told me that she wants to have her own space. However, i apologised and everything went smooth. When i came back from vacations and met we had a very nice day together and i brought her some gifts. the next day after our meeting her phone broke, i didnt know about it and i went crazy because she didnt answer any texts. usually, she doesnt text back because she is very busy working all day, i knew about that before i came back but when i went crazy texting her i expected an answer from her( i didnt know that her phone broke ). i texted her alot and called her alot. another reason i went crazy was because i saw on the internet a man that she is friend with sending her a love message. she didnt reply to him though. when she was not answering any texts or phonecalls i thought that she was thinking between me and him. maybe i was wrong. i started annoying her friends asking them where she is and if she is seeing another man and at the end they got pissed at me. i was acting kind of crazy. i got a text from her to break up because she hated what i did, didnt give her much space and acted possessory and pushy. i accepted her decision . however i told her that i apologise and regret for what ive done, i was so out of my mind at the time. now i know that i acted very wrong and want to change things. i want to work things out because i know i changed. she sent me a text few days after the break up tellin me if im ok and if uni is going well, i replied to her that everythin is going fine and that i miss her. the next day i texted her wishing her to have a nice day at work but she didnt reply. generally she doesnt reply to texts, ive sent this kind of messages when we were okay and she wasnt replying most times but i knew it was fine because i'd talk to her online later at night. what im asking now is what does her text(asking if im ok and if uni is going well) mean? does she still want me? shall i text her and when shall i text her telling her what?thanks for reading fellasjacky30
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reader, applebite8821  +, writes (15 October 2009):
 I can tell as a girl that she still has some feelings for you. Most of the time, a girl will not bother or embarass herself if she doesn't have feelings for you anymore. I mean, why the effort to initiate contact? And even asking how you are doing?
As of this time, I believe she is just confused of herself. Continue to give her more time to be by herself and then try to contact her again but not in a desperate way, maybe you can win her back again. You are not hopeless yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): Hi
Hey, Anonymous, I object very strongly to the term "Wrong Women". There are no such things as wrong women or wrong men! Just that some men and some women are not right for someone at that point of time! And, that is a world away from being a "wrong (whatever gender)".
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): Don't listen to the previous "helper." Stop making yourself into a sorry loser and move on. You are 18-21? Too young to get stuck with the wrong women. Get out there. Keep looking. It is not hard to meet a lot of girls, unless of course you're really heavy and/or look like a monkey, in which case you'll have to start working out a bit. The other thing - not much we can do about that one. Like I said, there's plenty of girls for a young man like you to try out. There's just not a lot of perfect ones for you. Oh, and forget about her, she's not "the one" from the way you wrote about her. Keep moving.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2009): Hi
You have a good and healthy friendship, recently. And, she broke up with you for being possessive? Well, your going crazy over something like her phone breaking down rather proves it, don't you think? And, why must you think that if she is not with you, she MUST be with another? Really, a woman, in this day and age doesn't need that sort of boorish treatment from anyone. Also, at the present, I think that you need to focus on learning to give her space.
Don't try to read anything more into her asking you how your day was! She sounds like a very caring and friendly person. Besides, after your recent conduct over something like her phone breaking, how are you ever going to convince her that you are willing to give her her space, when you pissed her friends and all that.
You know, it is not only quite annoying but also embarrassing, so please, right now, work on that.
Really, if there is any other hidden meanings in a simple text, I think that you are too much of an immature guy to act on it! And, if there is anything between the two of you, right now, you are not ready for it!
I have been brutally honest, but I hope that you take the hint and learn to be better at relationships in the future.
So, best of luck
Take Care
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reader, Denizen +, writes (15 October 2009):
 You are becoming a txt stalker. She doesn't hate you but she doesn't want you either. You are trying to attach yourself to her and she doesn't want it. If she wanted you then you would be the first to know. Sorry mate! Suck it up and move on.
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