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writes:i told my boyfriend that we are impossible because we live in different country and our culture is totally different. we are at on the right age and he knows that i want to have my own family at the age of 30. he didn't say anything but when i want to leave him to find someone else to fulfill my dream. he ask me for more than ten times if we are impossible to be together, i always say yes. he said i want to break up because it will be more difficult if we continue our relationship but he will not break up with me if i will say yes that we have future together. he said i want us to have future.he's not getting any younger and he is not just playing around. what does he mean? he knows my plan, and i will be 30 next year but he never say anything about marriage just i want us to have future. he also always tell me that he wants a daughter and if, i should live beside him with our child. Reply to this Question
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reader, Peppa330  +, writes (9 January 2017):
I agree with Denizen. If you don't think it'll work then just walk away, if I were you I'd regret not following my dreams of a family.
On the other hand, if you decided that you do want a life forever with him then try and make a plan together to stick to. If he want to be with you this much then he'll do it, make a plan that means you can be in the same country and get married and do all of those things in the next few years. If he doesn't want to, or doesn't see how it's possible then you can move on knowing that you tried your hardest.
Best of luck
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reader, Denizen +, writes (7 January 2017):
 Breaking up is an option for either party. You don't need permission to break up with him. Just tell him, and then cut all communication.
As you have already broached the subject it won't be a surprise.
I think your decision is sensible. Trying to conduct a relationship across borders is impractical, and nigh on impracticable.
It is time for him to stop dreaming, and it is time for you to get on with the rest of your life.
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