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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well first of all me and my partner have been dating for a year and 8 months. He tells me that my problem is "lying" and it gets him angry. Even the smallest lie it gets him so mad. I haven't been lying to him for the past 4 months. Just a few days ago i called him private because he told me that someone has been calling him private and he doesnt know who it is. I decided to call him and not say anything and hang up. He asked me if i called him n i said no the first time but then i told him the truth cuz i felt wrong. I don't understand how he knew it was me the one who called, but yet when that anonymous person calls he doesnt find out. Anyway, he decided that we needed some "time off" because he has had enough with me and wants to just think about if he wants to break up or give me another chance. I decided that i wasnt going to beg him and to be calling/txting him because i have done that many times before and i feel like i put myself low. Then out of nowhere he txted me saying to stop calling him private to either just txt him or say something if i want to talk. I asked him why he was telling me that if i wasnt calling him and i dont plan on calling him. So he told me someone had just called him private and he thought it was me. Later on he told me that i didnt care about us that i didnt want to be with him because i didn't even call him or tell him i want to be with him. I told him i do want to be with him like i have told him many times before but i wasn't gonna be txting him or calling him if he wants time off. To me i think time off means not to be calling/txtin because i know if i do it will be like begin him and i dont want him to make a decision that he will later on regret. Time off is like not knowing or do anything to be in contact with each other for a while. If after this we feel like we really miss and need each other, then it means he really wants to be with me and i really want to be with him. I really want to be with him and change my ways of lying. It is hard for me to keep a lie, thats why i confessed when he asked me the second time. At the same time, i dont want us to keep hurting each other because i know its not healthy for the both of us. I just wish we could start from scratch but i know he will always think about the past and bring it up once in a while too.My question is what should i do? Should i show him that i want to be with him or just hide what i feel until he tells me his decision? Am i right about what "time off" means? Or what does it really mean? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answer! it helped out a lot! =)
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