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writes:This is a thought that I as a young, single, male have had for ages. I've never been in a relationship before so forgive me if you find this ignorant.I am absolutely head over heels about the female, the way they behave, act, look etc. From my observations I'm absolutely intoxicated.I find their movements so beautifully infused with childlike tendencies, a softness and tenderness, their behavious. Emotionally I find women fascinating, it just melts me from the inside.I can see why men like women. But just what the hell is it that women like about men? I admit my understanding of women is very little, but this is something I just can't seem to comprehend.What is it about men that you women like? Do women actually like men? In what way do you react to men sexually? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Something a friend of mine said the other day made me think on this - he chatting about how he'd work on his physical strength in later life. That seemed really odd to me; I had no idea why it should be important to him, far as I am concerned he's perfect and wonderful and the thought that he might feel insecure about something like that never crossed my mind before. I'd say masculinity is certainly not about working out all the time or any physical strength to me (I wouldn't like to speak for all of womankind!)I suppose "masculinity" is often perceived as keeping your feelings locked up and always appearing strong emotionally. Again, can't say that even remotely appeals to me. If a man is willing to talk about his feelings and admit when he's upset, I would see that as a strength, so maybe I perceive masculinity differently.Ok, so I suppose for me, masculinity is about not being afraid to be yourself, a willingness to stand up for those you love and your beliefs, strength to be honest even when it's difficult, a willingness to admit when you're wrong, an ability to control anger and always respect others - self control not to put others down or lash out when you're upset. To not be restrained by what others think or expect of a "man", and be yourself regardless. Best I can do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Hi, it's me again the person who asked the question.
Judging from the responses it seems it wasn't such a bad question. It seems to be hard to particularly pin point what women like about men.
So what exactly is masculinity to a woman?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): I tell you what, sometimes I do wonder!
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It's probably not going to be a very good answer! The first thing I always notice in a man is his eyes. I'm always attracted to men with gorgeous eyes. Maybe it's not just their eyes, it's the way they look at you. Sometimes a man can look at me in a way that says "wow! you look beautiful". Or he'll glance at me with sparkly eyes and we'll share a joke that no-one else has noticed. Even with strangers, sometimes you just connect with a look. This particular man has amazing sparkly brown eyes - I don't know, he looks at me and I feel better.
I always notice a lovely smile. This particular man is always smiling and he's just made of happy, bouncy loveliness. That's another thing I suppose, they're really playful. Girls have to grow up quite fast in a lot of ways, but men still love to play with gadgets and things and run about outside no matter what age they are. There's fun in spending time with them. Maybe because they're different. I guess opposites do attract!
I always notice when men wear a certain aftershave and smell amazing all the time! I suppose it's not the aftershave itself, it's the fact that they make such an effort to look nice for you. You can say to a man "you look lovely in that jumper" and he'll wear it everytime he sees you. And it's quite funny because he doesn't actually have to go to any effort at all to look nice.
I don't know. I honestly don't. When I like a man, I tend to know him really well. All his little mannerisms, the things he likes, his habits. And I'll just look at him and think "you are perfect." I could sit and say I'm attracted to a man when he looks gorgeous in a suit and I like being swept off my feet by his "masculineness". That'd be really false though, I'm not convinced it has anything to do with it! I'm actually attracted to him because he turns up at 3am with sweets when I'm overworked, sits listening to me for hours and never complains, never turns me away when I'm upset, wears baggy jumpers that make me want to cuddle him, has beautiful eyes and bounces up and down like a crazy person when he's happy. Actually, I think the best summary is, I'm attracted to him because when I'm around him I'm just happy. He doesn't have to do anything.
Sorry! Your question was perfectly reasonable, this answer on the other hand is shockingly ignorant!
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (27 April 2008):
You don't need to understand why women are attracted to men! Just be greatful they are, cause if they weren't, you would never get to be with one (they'd all be lesbians). It's written in their DNA to be attracted to men just as it is apart of the avaerge man's nature to be obssesed with women.
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reader, salvation  +, writes (27 April 2008):
i cant say for sure why women like guys i think part of it is attraction to the way we look like the way were attracted to women all the girls i know like me for the support i give them because im understanding but not in a weedy weakling kind of way
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): I think that women are attracted to men because they provide you with support and love. they are masculine and females are just attracted to that. they can be attracted to their intellegence, their looks, just they way they behave can make you fall in love with them. and i know that men have their bad sides, like being complete jerks to females because they r with their mates and have very bad habits but if u think about it so do women. Women are complete bitches, they are backstabbers to their friends and in a relationship demand emotional support which men find difficult sometimes to provide. they are demanding and require what they want when with a guy but before hand they will act all innocent and feminie...soo u see its just natural for females to be attracted to males...or other females if sexually orientated that way...its to do with you mind and they way you think;
hope this helps
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