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writes:I was watching this um...interesting show the other day, "Millionaire Matchmaker" and my first impression was, "eh. Superficial, loud. Predictable to an extent." But, the "matchmaker" said something that interested me in a sense. Her advise was: if a man doesn't know he loves you within six months, it's not happening. If a man doesn't propose after two years, leave. I thought about this and in some ways it made some sense and in some ways-not. What do you guys think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 December 2011):
 I think those shows are superficial too, but I agree with the advice up to a point.
And like most of the aunties said, this is advice for people in their late 20's and up.
IF you are looking for marriage, I can see that after 2 years together you know if she/he is the one you want to be with long term or not.
And if you don't know if you love someone after 6 months, then you don't love them. You might like them a lot and even enjoy their company, but I agree it's not love.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 December 2011):
 I happen to agree with her when it comes to adults. We are talking folks that are out living on their own established in the work force and contributing members of society.
I think it applies to men and women however. You pretty much do know within the first 3-6 months if you love someone... and within a year or 2 you know if you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
sadly I found that what I wanted at 21 (when I married the first husband) was not what I wanted at 29 (when I asked for a divorce).
Now at 51 (THIRTY years later) nothing much has changed in terms of KNOWING what I want NOW... and interestingly enough I've gone full circle and I'm with a man who is in some ways very much like my first husband... interesting to me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2011): Maybe it's true if we're talking about millionaires who are looking for wives. That is a sub-group of the male population that tends to be over 30yo, lotsa dating experience already, and pretty financially secure in the long term.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2011): This advice is spot on if the woman and man in question start dating their late 20s and on. By that point, most people know what they are looking for. And two years is more than enough time to propose.But this rule doesn't apply as much to people in their early to mid 20s. At that point you're still building a career, etc. I have found that as people get older they don't need more than two years to get engaged.
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