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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi...I met a guy recently and he asked me out for dinner. We went out, had a great time, great conversation, he paid for the bill and he walked me to my car; he gave me a kiss on each cheek and told me he'd call me. He texted me the following day to say he'd had a great night and that he'll speak to me very soon. He then emailed me the following day and asked me out again and said he'd call me that same night to confirm plans to meet. I felt very excited that I've actually met a true gentleman with good values and who i'm actually attracted to - very rare indeed. He called me that night as promised and we chatted for a bit - he was trying to be a bit witty and make me laugh etc etc...but he then came out with a comment that i felt shattered everything. he said, "why don't we meet in town so that this time i can get you drunk and er perhaps you know...?" So i responded, " you know, what? So that you can take advantage of me?" He then laughed to which i responded, "so you think i'm that easy do you?" I then just changed the subject and we left on a good note that we'll speak on the day to confirm exact plans. So, what do you think, is this guy in it just for a quick thrill? I'm obviously going out with him on that second date but i'm starting to wonder if their are any decent guys out there at all? Don't get me wrong, i'm not a prude, I just expect a bit of respect on the first few dates without there having to be any reference about sex. Is this too much to ask?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (14 March 2007):
 I suppose that he wouldn't be a normal guy if he didn't try something, the timing has obviously put a damper on things for you, though. I think most guys try heading in that direction on the second or third date, so it's up to you to define what direction you want the relationship to go in. We would probably question him more if he never tried to make a move! Ask him about meeting for coffee, or lunch instead, more time to talk and less chance of him asking for more than you're willing to give at this point. It can serve another purpose as well - a guy should be able to be flexable with his schedule - if you are only meeting at times that he designates - it's possible he's hiding another relationship (which can be another reason why he wants to move too fast). Why does he want to meet "In Town"? I have to admit - that is the one thing that you said that sent up a warning flag to me. I'd really question him more before getting any closer. Hope I'm being overly suspicious and that he turns out to be a prince, though, but it's always better to keep both eyes wide open. Good Luck Honey.
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