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writes:This guy I work with is very nice and friendly to me when I visit him at his office (I am a contractor to his company). He treats me like he likes me as a friend. I encountered him last Friday at the mall and he was making a move on a girl in a counter. I passed to say Hi and chat for a while, when I saw I was in his way I just went away. I happened to go today to the same mall and the girl in the counter recalled me and we ended up talking about the guy. She told me he said to her after I left that he met me from work and that I'm crazy.I'm pissed because the jerk shows me one face and tells other thing at my back. I don't even know the girl and if I was in his move he shouldn't have told that to her. I've always known he's a big player, but now I'm sure he's a big jerk. Should I say something to him or what should I do?
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (25 March 2009):
 I would just avoid him whenever possible. Change your relationship at work to a no-nonsense attitude, and put space between the two of you.
If he comes up and asks you "why the cold shoulder?" then you can say something like "Oh, I'm just a crazy girl, is all" and see if he gets the hint that you know.
Sadly, you probably shouldn't pursue a friendship with this guy. Even if he was still trying to just impress this other girl and tell her that you aren't "with" him, he went about it all wrong.
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (25 March 2009):
 You are a contractor, so be weary of loosing your job. I'm a consultant, so I could get "rolled off" by the client if they don't like me. They really don't have to have a reason.
Seeing as our lines of work are close, I would probably assume the situations we encounter are similar and handled similarly. Sadly this is one case where you might just have to suck it up and know that he's a jerk... unless he has no management power over you or your contract. If that's the case, confront him directly and ask him "wtf?"
... in nicer words, of course :)
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Why is this bothering you so much? It just sounds like he wanted her to know that you and he are not involved or anything so he could still run his game on her. You guys are just work aquaintances right? Sure he could have said something else but it wasnt really that horrible. He didnt say it to you. Do you have feelings for him? If not, then just keep your "relationship" on a more professional basis.
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