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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 months now (officially). The first couple months were good, great in fact.. We have the same friends and are in the same "circle" of friends.. In this group, there more single guys than couples. I'm friends with the girls and the guys who are couples, and so is my boyfriend. Basically, the problem is this: when we're alone, all his attention is on me, he treats me awesome, we have a great time and everything, and it's all 100% perfect.. BUT... when we go out with our friends, he spends more time with them. Of course when I get there, we say hello to each other, but don't spend much time together. My girlfriends that have boyfriends in our little circle of friends have been with their boyfriends for close to a year, so I'm kind of the newbie. Me and my boyfriend are the "new couple" and the "old couples" I guess you can say, spend a lot of their time together, they're always with each other in the group, and my boyfriend then spends most of his time with his single friends, instead of his in a relationship friends.. This bothers me. I mean, he'll come up to me once in a while and give me a hug and a kiss but he just doesn't hang out with me.Am I crazy? or is this not right? Or should I take this as normal? Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, bountyhunter11  +, writes (13 May 2009):
Im sort of in the same boat as you at the minute and I got very upset about it - he does the same, hangs out with all our friends, mostly talks to them and comes over to cuddle or kiss me the odd time. I think it's because they find it almost impossible to juggle friend/relationships at the same time. I think generally he's probably a very social person and likes hanging out with different people. Or maybe he's even a bit shy to even make out and stuff in front of your group of friends and maybe thinks it might even be a bit rude and might not want them to feel discluded. I don't really know about this theory but it would explain a lot lol
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (25 March 2009):
 It's not really a big deal. My girlfriend is similar to that and we been together for 3 years. If maybe you want to hang out more as a group then just let him know.
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reader, DLover  +, writes (25 March 2009):
I don't think you need to panic at all... like you said, he's perfect when you two are alone. But you two cannot always be alone, sometimes he needs to do some guy speaking with his friends or just simple stupid things we all do. He's not going to stop seeing his friends because he found a wonderful girlfriend like you: if he does, it will break your relationship on the long term (it would be a fusionnal relasionship: not exactly sure of the term I'm translating it from french).
Also, do not try to invade those guy conversations: you can participate, just don't make it EVERY time or he and/or his friends will feel invaded. By the way, it's not always a guy conversation when two guys talk.
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