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writes:My boyfriend and I have been split up for about. A month now. We were living together before the break up and since he moved out we've talked on and off with some booty call. Last night he came over we watched a movie and he started talking more on depth of why we broke up. We got some things out that we needed to without yelling I sort of took it as reevaluating things more or less. Well we had sex then I took him home he said he felt that I didn't have a emotion and that I wasn't there and I'm thinking well you left me so my emotions do change naturally then he breaks it to me that in the past week he had made out with three different girls said he didn't sleep with them he said he didn't tell me at first because he wanted to see if I was still emotionlesa and that I hadn't changed. And that he needed to do him right now and get his own place then he can do other stuff. In my head I've always stuck to once you get so far you can't really just jump back to square one. I don't know what to do now I'm just trying to move on. Any advice would help?!
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (15 July 2008):
 I was in a situation simular to this when I was in my 20's. My ex boyfriend came around after we broke up, for booty calls. I thought that we were going to get back together, but when I realized that He was just using me for guarenteed sex, then one day when he came around... I said NO... then I never saw him again.
What are YOUR intentions? Ask him what his intentions are. Then go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): You're hardly split up if you're still having sex!
If you both enjoy each others' bodies in this way then fine, no problem, but if you start to get serious again I foretell fireworks.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 Well it's a cliche but things really never would be the same again even if you did get back together which it seems to me is the unspoken hope of at least yourself though his comment about you lacking emotion could indicate something there though that is a pretty tenous hope. Why did he leave? What reasons did he give??
Having sex with him can barely be helping you to move on...it seems to me that you are doing it to try and prove something to him?? Either he is using you for sex...or sex isnt really what he is looking for; either way I think that the best thing you can do is not have sex with him anymore and try and move on for yourself....good luck :)
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