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writes:Hello. Well, I've met this guy for a month already, we went out a couple of times, had sex, and we were still ok with each other. I havent see him for 2 weeks already, cause he started working and he says he is tired. We talked very often on the MSN or he even texts me. If he wouldn't want anything he would just cut it off. Or what? I don't understand him. But even if he goes out he doesn't invite me anymore. Help
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 Oh, he wants something all right...sex without commitment or effort. He is telling you with his actions that you are not important enough to spend time with. The writing's on the wall. Sorry this happened to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Yeah a guy who says he's too tired and had to work and doesn't see you for two weeks is not interested in you romantically at all, he is just keeping you on the string or in his little black book and texting you and chatting with you is minimal effort to keep you hanging on.
I would stop answering him and move on, and like all the gals here are saying have more self respect....Hooking up with a guy is just that sex without relationship, girls today just don't get it, that it is degrading to young women to be so promiscuous. Sex does not make a guy love you....he thinks you are of low value because that is the way you treat yourself. Think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): Looks like you are "back up" girl now. Sometimes sex can lead to more but usually it's the opposite! If he can't even ask you out now or call to make plans with you, I would keep your dignity and not respond to lame msn chats and texts, that's degrading. Next time, let the guy you are dating earn it with you and don't kill the chase by having sex with him right away. Even if you just want sex, which is cool, don't keep guys around that can't respect you enough to call you to make plans in advance and think that they can throw you little crumbs like texts and you'll respond like you're desperate or something. You are better than that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): You've only seen him twice and you've already had sex with him? I think he probably lost interest is what's happening here. If he was into you, he'd want to see you again and not wait two weeks. If you are looking for a relationship with someone, I would suggest you get to know them first before you have sex so you don't get treated like a one night stand. He'll probably call you again if he wants sex or gets bored but I doubt he'll take you out to dinner or be your boyfriend, sorry.
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reader, kali_shey +, writes (24 May 2009):
A guy who really likes you will not go 2 weeks without seeing you. He is probably seeing someone else and still texting with you because he doesn't know how to tell you or he's trying to let you down easy, hoping you get "the message" that it's over.
Guys don't like to be direct most of the time. They'd rather avoid a confrontation with a girl, especially if they know she's going to be hurt.
If you really want to know, call him up and ask him. Ask him why he never wants to hang out anymore, and see what he says. If he doesn't give you a straight answer, it's probably because the answer is something you really won't like.
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