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writes:My husband left the house 5 months ago, stating "you don't care about me and I don't care about you" you didn't make me feel loved too much has gone on in the past, and he feels can't get past that. During this time we have gotten to gather many times and made love. We have a 15 yr old which he finds hard to deal with because many times he is abnoxious. During this 5 month period he has gone to Florida numerous times stating he eventually wants to move there, he has somewhat semi-retired. I am still a mother and at home. He says he is unhappy in the house
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reader, Aunt ~ Em  +, writes (27 October 2008):
 I'm only young...
But I'm going to say stop the random sex for a start. If he's coming round, it's not just to use you.
Talk about the problems there are at home and why he thinks florida would be more suitable. Would you be willing to move with him if he would let you?
Clearly you still have feelings for each other if you're engaging in intercourse despite the fall out. Talk about what can be altered, what his needs are and make sure you stand up for yours!
It might also be worth talking to your... son? Ask him what he thinks about his dad, one to one. See if there's anyway that he can be a little more understanding, express that you're upset and that you want things to work (if you do want to fix it) and that you'll need his help.
Communication is the key here.
Work with him as best you can.
But it isn't fair for him to be messing with your emotions, storming out one minute and then dragging you back into bed the next. Put your foot down, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Be firm and be strong. You'll probably scare the crap outta him, but at least it will get you somewhere.
I hope that helped.
And yeah, us teens are just a pain in the arse. But we care deep down. You've just gotta approach us in the right way. Chances are, he'll be on your side if you just talk to him.
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