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writes:What do you do when a guy doesn't make things clear. He says one thing and then does another. He acts like he wants a full commitment again and then when I agree he hides out again. I did not call him at all and he came running back and then when I let him back in again he pulls away. I just want this over with...he either is in or out. Yes I love him that is why this is so difficult. He knows how I feel and when we try to be just friends it is impossible because we have this great chemistry and great connection. I just want him to come clean and tell me what is going on in his head. Or maybe he is taking what I say the wrong way. I don't know. He says to me I can rent a room in his house for $1.00, so I say okay and I can come and go as I please (no pressure) and what about your dates? He said it depends on you. (He wanted me to move in before and that was what he had said,)Now I think he took it the wrong way and thinks I don't care about him or Maybe I am overthinking this. I just know I can't handle this - you either want something or you don't we are not teenagers. I need to make a go with him or move on. I want to ask him straight out but then again he is not one to handle "talk" pressure and I don't want to push him away. Any advice on this confusion?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): If your happily ever after includes marriage then don't settle for less. You don't have to explain it to any of your divorced friends or feel embarassed for wanting to be married. I wouldn't worry so much about what he is doing or why, put the focus on yourself and go for what you want....keep dating other men if this one won't step up and get over his "fears". It is his to deal with....and you can stay on your own path.
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reader, Jennie10 +, writes (31 August 2009):
Jennie10 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the response. No it is not really like that about the $1.00. He called tonite and we joked about it if I initate things I could stay there forever it really is about marriage. He was married once and got taken. Me on the other hand I have an issue w/ living with someone if it won't lead to marriage. We both are very storng headed and actually have conservative views about relationships. He is just fearful from what happened but I won't give it up and guess worried now that I am older...my friends who are divorced say why do you care so much about marriage if you have a true commitment from the man...I guess I am just old fashioned which I am but I really just love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Yeah, here is a reality check for you. Any mature man (in your age group) would not shy away from talk that you try to have about the relationship. Any mature man would not think you were pressuring him either.
And he asked you if you wanted to rent a room for a $1.00? That would make you a roommate, not a romantic partner, a duh "no pressure" for you....sounds like well you can be my friend with benefits for a $1.00 month.
EEEEWWWWWW. get rid of this creep, please, you have wasted enough time sitting there taking his BS.
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