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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a question for the guys out there. What is it that you like for a woman to do during sex? I sometimes feel a little bit lost and not quite sure what I should do. Any suggestions would be most appreciated! Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2008): Just find a guy who will love you and he will tell you! Every man is different!
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reader, daletom +, writes (6 August 2008):
Respond HONESTLY to what we're doing and what she's feeling. Don't be afraid to express pleasure, whether it's vocally, how you hold yourself, how you move your body. (Genuine gasps, moans, twitches and quivers are the sexiest things imaginable!) Let me know, very directly if necessary, what she wants - whether it's "Enjoy me, dear - this time is for you." or "My period starts tomorrow and I need three good orgasms before you even THINK of getting inside me!". Learn to use her skin, hands, hair and mouth in lovemaking. Teach me where on her body to use my skin, hands, hair and mouth - and in what order - and how to read her responses. Get on top, at least some of the time. And learn to both give and get pleasure from a variety of positions.
Of course, it doesn't matter to YOU what I enjoy. Get a copy of "Joy of Sex" and "More Joy of Sex", and go through it with your guy. Discussing each article together can be fun, or pass it back and forth under each other's pillow - with sticky notes containing comments like "Let's talk about pg 83" or "Pg 147 is a DEFINITE turn-off" strategically positioned at various pages.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (6 August 2008):
 You make sex sound like a one person show where it should be you who is doing things!
You should both be aiming to please each other. If a man is solely expecting you to please him or do things just for him then he is being unfair....you should have ideas as to what *you* want a man to do to you as well!
Though that said, it's usually rare for a man (young especially) to expect the women to do things for them as most men are more concerned as to how they are performing and what the woman is feeling.
The best thing you can do is re-assure the man that they are doing the right thing....and if he is not tell him what you want and how you like it...after all if he does what you tell him to do you will enjoy sex more and the man will feel pleased with himself that he has pleased you!!
Ask the man what he likes as well...then you will know what to do!
Above all though, don't worry about being a little lost and unsure what to do...everyone has had that experience!
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