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writes:My boyfriend wants me to tell him my fantasies, but I'm so nervous. Some of them are really DIRTY. For example, I have rape fantasies, one of the most common I know, but kind of hard to explain. Especially since I want it rough. Not just him taking control.He was raised very conservatively so his dirtiest fantasy is anal sex, which although taboo, isn't very bad. We do it all the time, and he swears there's nothing more than that. He's also very gentle.I'm afraid that if I tell him some of these things it's going to completely freak him out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): pleasures in relationships arent built on rocks, its about the art of being frank about each other no matter the how worse the situation is. just tell him maybe he will change his ways of having sex with u to the way u like it. another cause maybe that he haves sex with u to satisfy himeself rather than u both getting satisfied so just tell him.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (6 August 2008):
 Our fantasies are our Very Personal desires. I don't think you need to share them. Just a tip, if you ever tell him, CHOOSE YOUR WORDS PROPERLY. Don't say 'RAPE FANTASY' rather say 'FORCED SEX FANTASY' ... You understand.?
Basically you just wanna feel helpless when he turns wild on you... Just let him know that and your work is done..
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (6 August 2008):
 Start out slow, with one of your tamer fantasies and gauge his reaction. Maybe once you loosen him up, he'll be open to experimenting and maybe even acting out on some of them. I'm sure there's a freak inside of him dying to break out.
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reader, RileySapphire +, writes (6 August 2008):
 I can definatly relate. When my partner and I met I had similar fantasies (Maybe beyond). What worked for me worked well.
For the most part guys like girls with dirty minds. I suggest not overwhelming him " dear will you please hang me from the cealing and whip me tonight?"
But instead, gently engage his intrest, start small. Into bondage? Buy a cheap pair of novelty handcuffs. As a 'joke'. humor is always a good way to break sexual tension.
another good tip? Let him go first. If your nervous, laugh, be silly, but one way or another, get him into those handcuffs and show him the freedom in letting go of control. Spark his intrest and he won't be able to den your turn.
from there you can build up to something a little...harder to escape from. The more you lead him into your world, the more curious he will be. Eventually he will be playing out your wildest rape fantasys and more.
It has worked wonders for my artner and I. I have him doing some of the kinkiest things he would have never dreamed of doing, and vise versa. ;)
Hope I could help. take care!
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (6 August 2008):
 If he could not handle it, do not share them with him yet. Tell him to read the book My Secret Garden which is all about women's sexual fantasies. If he can handle what is in that book, THEN he has proven he can handle anything you have to tell him.
-Frank B Kermit
http://www.franktalks.com
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