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writes:hey im 15 and for the last 4 years i have been dying for a baby. i keep telling my self to atleast wait untill ive left college, so i can, find a nice partner who loves me and will stay with me no matter what even if he gets me pregnant. get a job save up enough money to buy cots, prams, clothes, nappies, bottles and brushes and all that stuff, and so atleast i have some a levels to fall back on when my baby goes to nurseryI dont want to bring my baby up with out a dad.In the past ive had boy friends that have wanted me to sleep with them, and have babies with them, but i always said no because,1 i knew i had no money to raise my baby with, 2 i wasnt ready for sex, and 3 i knew my parents would kill me if i came home pregnant at the age of 13,14,15.i know that i will have to get up in the middle of the night to do night feeds and change dirty nappies. when somebody is talking to my mum about their baby and im there she always says at least wait untill you have finished college to me so i know she wont be upset about it an my dad is near enuf the same.i know that a baby can be exhausting and needing alot of love and attention. i know i can give a ababy everything it needs, love, care, attention.am i stuipid for wanting a baby, am i stupid waiting till ive left college with sum decent grades, should i wait untill im 18 or 19. i know once ive had a baby i cant go out partying and clubbing and getting drunk.what do you guys think
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): Tons of girls feel the same need for a baby.
I did when I was younger. In fact, I still do. I'm 22. I knew I wasn't ready for a baby before now. Though, now I'm really hoping I can conceive this year!! I even seem young to some people, so 15 is REALLY young. But, I think being a parent is an important thing in anyone's life.
Yeah, they may be time-suckers. But I understand. It's yours. It's this little beautiful things that's all yours to care for.
But yes, wait still.
Don't listen to anyone who thinks you're crazy though!!
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reader, 15 N Wants A Baby =] +, writes (21 March 2010):
15 N Wants A Baby =] is verified as being by the original poster of the question![15 N Wants A Baby =] agony aunt](/avatars/b102bf4a-4a7e-41ea-b795-177558aea6eb.png) i do want to wait till ive finished college and i have found the right guy and i have already started saving up im getting a job then ill have more money saved up when a baby does come into my life
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): Listen dear,Babies are great! They are cute and loving and are a joy to watch. Having a baby is not so great. They cry and are needy and take up all of your free time, and grow up, and if you don't have the ability to give the child a better upbringing then you received from your home then there is no telling how that kid might turn out. What you need to consider is that a baby is a person that will grow up. You don't have enough life experience to give that kid the chance it needs to be a successful grown up.I suggest you try to volunteer at a preschool or nursery so that you can get your "baby fix" and you try to wait as long as you can to have kids. I had two kids by the time I was 20 and I missed out on a lot more than clubbing and drinking. I work a modest job and barely make ends meet for my wife and our now three children. If we would have waited we could have gone to college and maybe life wouldn't be so difficult nowadays. I wouldn't trade my family for anything in the world but I will always wonder "what if".You only get one life and one chance to get it right. And looking back it passes by in the blink of an eye. You will be out of college before you know it, ready to take on the world.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 March 2010):
I just answered another question like this for someone. I'll say the same thing, more or less. You're not stupid for wanting a baby, since it's perfectly natural. And you're very sensible to want to wait. A baby in the UK costs £10,000 a year on average until it's 18. You do lose a huge amount of your social life, which is hard when you're young. I'm not saying young people haven't done it. Of course they have. But it's very difficult to raise a baby if you don't have anything to call upon, such as grades to get a decent job.
Yes, wait. You want to meet the right guy, so take your time doing that. And you need to be in a good financial position too. There is no rush at this time.
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