A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:okay i having a REAL hard time but can anyone PLEASE help....here goes.what do you do when you love someone that1-you cant have2-is not your age3-doesnt love you back yet,you feel like they are lying you feel as if hes/shes yours and if you let them go its like your letting a piece of you go with them....that when they dont respond to your e-mails you cant hate them not matter what he/she doesthey say you can still be their friends and when you try and talk to them in a friendly manner they act immature??what should i do??please no rude comments i just wanna move on but that person always comes back.
View related questions:
immature, move on Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Nat8124  +, writes (4 September 2008):
Oh no! You must be struggling so much right now - its such a horrible feeling but its one that so many people have to deal with at one point or another. I think the best thing you can do in this situation is act like you don't really care. It may be killing you inside but keep your chin up and don't let him see how gutted you really are. You are still very young and that may work out to be an advantage. You are going to change so much over the next few years that one day it might just actually hit him and he'll see what he might be losing if he continues with the 'just friends' line. Let him see you being confident and happy without him and if he's the right guy for you, then he'll realize his mistake. Good Luck!!
A
female
reader, crazy_in_luv +, writes (1 September 2008):
hi.
i am sorry to hear u r going through such a situation...i felt this way too..over 2 years ago.he was in my class and i really fell for him..that wasnt any puppy love...but he moved and cut off all contacts,i used to cry myself to sleep everyday,went into depression n all and then HE came...the guy who taught me what love really is..i have spent a wonderful 1 and half year with him and have no regrets.
just remember..whatever happens is for ur own good.hang on to this thought and u will be fine.
take care of urself
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): I'm in the same situation you're in right now;; except me and him are the same age. I really like him but he doesn't feel the same way. I think you should try to move on now. I know it's going to be hard cuz i've been through this before. Try not to think about him as much. Keep yourself busy with other activities. Go out with your friends to the mall or go see a movie. Maybe you will meet someone better that will love you as much as you love him. =]
...............................
A
female
reader, Ah-ha +, writes (1 September 2008):
Hello there, Just ride it out. I'm going to answer this question and pretend I'm talking to myself 8 years ago, when I was ga-ga over my first major 'crush.' I thought it was love too, and it felt like love, but when someone is treating you poorly, doesn't know who you are, clearly doesn't want you and yet you still long after them- what does that really say about you? Chill out, think of all the things you want to acheive in life, and forget about this guy. When you stop looking and start concentrating on how wonderful and amazing YOU are, the most wonderful things start to happen! Also, what really helped me snap out of it was reading this brilliant book I totally recommend for this situation:"He's just not that into you"- Greg Behrendt, Liz Tucciliohttp://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/068987474XI know it sounds like a joke, but it has some truths in it all young women need to hear.I really hope this helps, and once again, start living your life for yourself, not for the love of another.-A
...............................
|
