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writes:Right well I really like this boy I've liked him for about 5 weeks and he likes me exactly the same, the only problem I his ex is one of my friends and they went out for about 5 months and she lost her virginity to him and everything they finished about 2 months ago and she knows we like each other she won't let us be together, what should we do should we just give up or keep trying, its just going to be so hard to get over him.. Help me!
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (11 August 2011):
 I think there isn't really a yes or no answer to this sort of question. In my opinion it's ok to be with a friends' ex as long as they give you permission for it. This happened with me and I'm now going out with a friends' ex because she was generally ok with it though i still feel a little guilty. Also i think it depends on how close you are to the friend~ It would be worse if your friend was one of your closest and as someone else wrote your friendship could be ruined (luckily i'm still friends with my friend and it all seems to be ok). I think it would also depend on how the situation is with the friend and the ex as well as if they are into anyone else. In your situation though, as you've already said your friend won't let you, then you should try and get over him, and as the first poster said she might not care in the future and let you be with him.Good Luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): what you have to ask yourself is who you value more, is it your friend or her ex boyfriend? while you carn't help who you like, you can help what to do about it.You should try looking at the situation from your friends point of veiw, imagine if the boy you like now was your ex boyfriend and you lost your vaginity to him and a friend of yours or even your friend herself felt the same.while their is nothing to stop you and him getting together because your friend can not stop you, i think you should realise that you stand chance of jeopardizing your friendship.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (10 August 2011):
 yep, usually, and your friends are the ones who listen to you and help you get over it when it all goes wrong with a boy, remember that too :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice I'll keep it in mind, I guess friends are there for you longer than boys!
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (10 August 2011):
this will hurt your friend and rightly or wrongly she is forbidding you from being with him. an uwritten rule in dating is 'your friends ex - don't go there'
is she a friend who you don't want to lose? coz that will happen (or at least she won't trust you the same again) if you get with this lad.
how would you feel if you got with him and he went out with you for a couple of months and then you broke up, in the meantime you have lost your friend.
my advice is get over him, there are plenty more lads you could go out with but GOOD friends are not that easy to find. give her a bit longer to get over him, she lost her virginity to him and they have only been broke up for 8 weeks, in the future she may not care and tell you that you are welcome to him
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