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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:What do you do when you're in love with a boy, he is in love with you back, but you are both not in good places in your lives to have relationships? I am not in a great place in my life, graduated from college but no job, few friends, and the last doctor I went to told me I might be depressed. He is just the opposite, has a crazy life, crazy job, friends, mainly girls. He and I are best friends, plus when we're together we are very affectionate with each other.. we have had sex a few times and we both say it's so much more amazing with each other than it is with anyone else.I love him so much and could see myself being with him, but I know that I should work on being happy with myself first before getting in a relationship. And that would be fine, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship with me and it drives me crazy! He thinks that what we have is a friendship (even though we do everything couples would do and he even does things all the time that show me he loves me and he says he's in love with me) but he wants us to be able to "accept each other's love until another guy or girl comes along" because otherwise we'd be "wasting it". I tell him we are wasting it by not being together, but he thinks we can both find other people we are more compatible with. And we have been close like this for a year now and he still feels that way. And even though I don't think I should be with anyone right now it drives me crazy that he doesn't want to be with me and it makes me want us to be together even more.I can't be friends with him because we tried that for a few months but it didn't work but he is my everything and I'm scared of losing him if I cut off contact... I should probably get over him? But I am so scared of that process and it would make me so sad to think that we will never be able to fully explore what we could have had if I do that.. what if he is just not ready yet and he comes around later? I know I can't predict the future.. so what should I do right now?
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reader, sexybabe13 +, writes (2 December 2010):
 well wait you have plenty of time .dont just wait around ,enjoy the rest of ur life.if he doesnt want to be in a relationship, thats his , just remeber he'll never find anyone else like you
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