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writes:How do you deal with your confused feelings when your in a relationship with a man you truly truly love and care for but the Sex isn't there anymore and there is no hope of talking through it (trust me already tried) and i would never cheat on him never but i feel stuck in this relationship and i don't want to feel this way because it is very unhealthy but i am completly confused, can anyone relate or give me advice on this situation. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): I can relate. I found myself in a marriage where the sex slowly died away and he wouldnt talk about it. Like you i tried to get him to talk but he refused point blank. He would just leave the room if i began mentioning anything. It became a miserable way to live and my self confidence hit rock bottom. He insisted he still loved me but seemed happy with things the way they were and he just wasnt prepared to be physical. After so long time, i decided to end things. We are still friends and it suits us both much better this way. I just regret waiting so long before i saw the light and moved on.
The only thing you can do is to sit him down for a very serious talk and ask him if there is any chance of a sex life again. If there isnt, then you will have to decide if you love him enough to stay with him and give up the idea of a sex life. If you cant do that, then you are left with little choice but to leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): Agreed with male anon. Definitely a deal breaker. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): if you're sure you can't address the sex issue honestly, then you might want to end the relationship. You can still be friends with him, because without intimacy, the relationship is already becoming a platonic friendship anyway, so why not make it official.
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reader, Dough +, writes (4 May 2011):
I'm pretty sure this is how my fiance of three years felt about me. If you didn't have a different name posted, I would have thought it to be her. If you really have tried everything else, break it off. Be quick, it will suck no matter how you do it, so best to be quick, and Direct. Don't leave any ambiguity to it like, "I still want to be friends". There needs to be a clean and clear break. If you still love and are in love with him, but it's just the sex sucks, try buying a few books, if you read them and the tips don't work, leave them around the house, "He'll get the idea". - Good luck!
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