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anonymous
writes: Oh man!!- im still in shock!! what do you do when all of a sudden your best friend for so long tells you he's gay??? Well that's what happened do me, i knew "D" since kindergarten, so it's been 8 years-we're really close friends and now all of a sudden he tells me he's gay now i dont have problem with gay people, i have no problem if he's gay or not, im just still in shock, i dont know what to do ....im the only one who knows besides our other friend "j" what should i do??
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (5 April 2009):
 Well at least you don't have to worry about him liking the girls you like! Don't do anything differently, he hasn't changed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): This is what you say, "Cool."
And then you carry on as normal.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (5 April 2009):
Be greatful that he felt he could confide in you and never break his confidence. Your still young and change is common! Accept him for who he is, hes the same person yet his personal/relationship lifestyle (which wont involve you all that much!) is what has changed, its not going to affect you, him or your friendship. its a shock yes, but dont draw attention to it more than needs be, its a big thing for him all he needs now is your support, be the friend you have been for so many years at a time when he needs you most.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (5 April 2009):
Well it's not like he's been lying about this and has known since you two were in the sand box at playschool.
The poor kid has probably only just started having these feelings and he's scared to death that everyone is going to hate him and his parents are going to throw him on the street.
What you need to do is tell him that you will always be there for him and be his friend. That you'll stand by him even if everyone else tells him he's wrong and not normal.
He's still exactly the same person he always was, it's just that you both fancy different halves of Brangelina.
Don't treat him any different because he's not. Just don't try and set him up with any girls.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): You should just continue to be his friend. He is still the same person you grew up with. He is in for some hard times coming up because as you know not everyone is open minded. So it would probably be great for him to have at least one person in his corner, there for him as a friend!
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