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writes:What do you guys think of boring guys?Let me explain: I was always taught that you should be doing something with your free time - going out and having fun, going on vacation, reading a book, cleaning the house, helping someone else, calling your mother, whatever - the point is to LIVE. The guy I'm seeing now, I like him because he's very emotionally mature but he is BORING. At first when we started dating, I took him to the park for a walk, picnics, movies, restaurants. But now, all we ever do is lie in bed and watch TV or sit on the couch and watch TV. And sometimes, I'll come over and he'll go to play video games when I'm around and suggest that I just hang out with him and watch him play or watch TV. I like him but I can't respect someone who watch TV and plays video games on his free time. And there's only so much nagging/suggesting I can do. Are we just too different to be together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): it seems like he could CARE LESS ABOUT U
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reader, daletom +, writes (7 August 2008):
Hey there, "caveman"!
Who gave Irish guys permission to quote Dylan songs? Just because his material has been performed (or covered) by half the musicians in the galaxy doesn't make it right!! Besides, Dylan took his stage name from an ENGLISH (well, OK, Welsh - but that's close enough) poet and I know you Irish folks are still upset over what King Billy did at the Boyne.
I bet Bob Dylan is old enough to be your father - his grandkids probably aren't much younger than you!
OK - all in jest. I hope you can stand a little teasing.
In truth, it's an excellent post and I admire it. Quite aside from addressing the immediate topic, it shows that there is admirable cross-generational and cross-cultural dialog going on here.
I appreciate your contribution and hope you keep up the good work!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): I think this lady has updated her question and more details can be found in this link....
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-broke-up-with-my-perfect-boyfriend-and.html
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reader, daletom +, writes (7 August 2008):
Although I personally think there's a problem (for anybody) when the primary question changes from "Shall we watch TV?" to "What shall we watch on TV?", the real problem here is a disconnect between your values, expectations, and common interests.
This is NOT an insurmountable problem. The first step is that both of you need to agree to work at finding a solution. (Boy, does that ever sound like some preachy shrink talking!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Your guy has different interests to you. You find him borring, this relationship can't work. Imagine, all the time your spending with him doing borring things, you could be out enjoying yourself, you could be going on pinics, to the movies and doing ton's of other things. Leave this guy, finish the relationship, maybe you and he can remain friends. You only have one life to live and there is only so much watching TV or watching him play video games you can do, before you go crazy with boredom yourself. Finish this relationship and find somebody who can share your interest and hobbies with you.
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reader, jabey  +, writes (7 August 2008):
well if you have suggested and talked to him about your concerns and nothing has changed. Then I think im afraid you are too different and this person will drive you mad in the long term.
Some poeple would be happy with that type of relationship but im with you I would need to be doing more things with someone. I suggest that you do find someone who is better suited to you. You never know if he thinks he is loosing you or has lost you he may wake up and change xxx
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