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writes: So I'm with a girlfriend who loves to make me come. She swallows, which is amazing in itself, but she wants me to come other places if I want. I would like to try coming in her face, well, really more like her open mouth, but I've always thought that as a bit degrading or something they overdo in porn. But she says she would be totally OK with it. She even mentioned taking pics if I want. So I want to do it, but part of me doesn't want to cross over into treating her like a fuck doll. Part of me does...maybe because I suspect she's done it before and I don't want to be outdone. I guess her perception of it and mine are all that matter, but I am curious about two things: first, what do women like about it, and second, do you feel it's degrading if both are comfortable with it or even love it? How do I do it right? Obviously I'd prefer females to answer, but if guys have gotten confessions on this from their girls, I'd love to hear that too.Sorry if this is too vivid for this group. I'm new here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all. Well, I gave it a shot (pardon the pun) and it was kinda fun for both of us. However, it was mostly around her mouth, so we were both happier with that...no glazed over eyes or hair gel. It felt...like I was in charge. Like I dominated her sexually, and she loved being dominated. It felt raw and animalistic...and very masculine for me. Not sure I will make it a regular part of our repertoire, but maybe when the mood is right.
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reader, LustyLisa  +, writes (27 September 2010):
It's not something that I've ever enterained or would allow if asked and not something that I would offer under any circumsatances. However, your partner has brought it up and has expressed a desire for. Not all women feel the same way about facials.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (26 September 2010):
 I actually don't mind getting it on the face. I'll take it on the face over in the mouth any day of the week! What do I like about it? I don't know, I guess it's just something different! And, it's nice knowing that he likes my face so much that he wants to look at it while he finishes! My feeling is, it's only degrading if the fella you're with makes you feel degraded. So if she's okay with it and excited about it, and you love her then why not have a little boundary pushing fun?
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reader, BassiveMalls +, writes (26 September 2010):
 Maybe she wants to be degraded.
Ever think of that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): Why analyze and dissect every situation so much? Who decides what is degrading?? If cumming on the face is seen as such, then what about giving a man a blow job and swallowing his semen? What about spanking? It can be fun if done in the right way and with the right spirit, otherwise its downright cruel.
Everything and nothing is bad...its about the way you look at things. As long as its safe, and both partners are consenting adults, then dont think of these things. Its only degrading if you want it to be. If you cum on her face with the intention of domination/degradation/humiliation, then it will be all this and more. If its a fun thing you want to try out, it'l just be that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. If we both enjoy it, I may try it....but only because to me, it is a show of acceptance. If it feels degrading, I won't. I hope I'm not being too specific here, but I personally hate porn where guys come all over a womans face, coating her eye sockets, forehead and hair. Shooting it in an open mouth, I can see that being a bit fun, and OOPS, some goes elsewhere...kinda fun too. But yeah...a cumbath is degrading and I wont do that, even if she asks.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 September 2010):
 It's good you're thinking about these things, like not treating her like a "fuckdoll" as you say and that you realize it's a product of porn and that you realize it's degrading. Cumming on someone's body isn't necessarily degrading, but onto her face really can only be enjoyable for one reason, degradation. As you acknowledge this, it's your choice what to do obviously. Just because she wants to do it, doesn't make it any less degrading. So you really just need to be able to decide if you want to degrade your girlfriend or not. There's no reason to want to cum on someone's face/bathe someone in semen (as opposed to in a tissue, in her/her mouth, or someplace a little less, je ne sais quois...) unless you want to be degrading, consciously or not. Ejaculating onto a face cannot be any sign of any kind of respect. I mean think about it, you know it's degrading in porn and the porn star agreed to it (maybe), but why would that change just because it's you doing it or because it's not being filmed?
I used to be into it, because it was really exciting just to see guys who were excited. It was just exciting and it was just fun, right? So I didn't put thought into it beyond, how fun! Then I realized after me and friends went through a porn phase how degrading it was, how it was treating me like a "cumbucket." After talking to a few guys I got one of them to flat out admit he liked it because it was degrading. So now I won't do it anymore because I don't want to let myself be degraded like that.
For fun/curiosity, I googled why men want to do it, so here goes with the creepy quotes:
"It might be the face because it takes full willingness from the woman so it might just be the feeling of dominating and humiliating you."
"If they won't swallow,they deserve it in the face!" (see how it's a punishment to this guy?)
"In situations where facials apply, it is a symbol of dominance of one sex over the other when such a things happens."
So it's up to you, but just because you remove it from porn doesn't remove the dominance/degradation. I'm not trying to judge, I've done this act, I've enjoyed it. I just no longer can after questioning. It shows you do have a lot of respect for your girlfriend that you're asking these questions and that your first reaction was, "isn't that degrading???"
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): In my opinion id HATE a guy to cum on my face, it makes me squirm just thinking about it. I dont like to see men cumming, it makes me feel sick. I have no problem with swallowing, although i dont like the taste or texture, I love my boyfriend so..
I went out with a guy once who I gave a hand job and saw it go all over his chest. That put me off ever going near his penis. I dont want to see it!!!
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reader, emmaa92  +, writes (25 September 2010):
if she says shes sure shes ok with it, and is giving you suggestions like taking pictures, i wouldnt hold back but maybe only do it once in a while to make sure your relationship isnt all about sex! if both of you love it, there is nothing wrong with that! there is not way to do it right, just go with the flow :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): I have never experienced it and personally I don't think I ever would. I don't desire it whatsoever and would feel degraded...and I also would never swallow either. However, if it's something that you and your girlfriend are comfortabe with doing then I'd say go for it. You can explain to her some of your insecurities about it and get some feedback from her. But it strictly is something for the two of you to decide together. I think with her knowing that you don't want to do anything that makes her feel degraded and she reassures you that she wouldn't feel that way then it might be a fun bit of kinkiness to add to your sex life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): i can't really tell you why women like it, because some like it for different reasons. i don't at all, but a friend of mine does.
it is degrading to some women, but if you and your girlfriend have already talked about it and she's okay with it, go ahead. maybe there's something pleasurable about it to her. if she's fine with it, just make sure one more time, and as long as she keeps saying it's okay, then it's okay.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (25 September 2010):
 I, personally, would like a man to cum anywhere on my body, but I never want it in the face. I don't really see it as degrading; I just don't want it in my eyes!
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