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writes:I'm 16 and I need some guys opinions, If this other guy smiles and comes right over then hugs me, or smiles at me and stares while I'm on stage singing, or is letting me put his hand on his leg and puts his hands and legs on me, always tickling me...does this mean he likes me???I've been hurt soo many times in the past I just don't know anything anymore. From the past few boys all they've wanted is sex, I want a relationship and NOT sex! But once they hear all the hobbies I have the back off of the relationship and just want sex...does it mean I'm over powering? Or they think I might do to much?so guys *girls too! ** help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): There's the one possibility that he was joking about the "how you ride your horses" thing when you set him up for the joke, but does he joke randomnly about things other than sex, often? Try to piece together whether he jokes like that all the time or if he only talks dirty to you, hoping to get something out of it. Maybe he's normal but finds sick jokes the funniest, and all he has is a sick sense of humor. I know a few people like that, and they're not sex fiends or freaks, so please judge him carefully before you dump his ass. Some of the sickest joking people I know are also the most loyal friends I know, so it's hard to use that as a basis for him wanting sex, unless he's talking dirty in such a way as to hint he's out to drill you. Make him wait for a while before he gets anything but kisses, and see what he does.. If you don't want him all feeling you up just yet, then make it clear to him each time he tries, and make him wait a couple months and then see what he does. If he acts all crazy like he's overly persistent in trying, even though you say not to, then you might have a player on your hands. If you tell him you want to wait a year or ten years, he should wait, if he respects you, but you'll know after the first month or two, because he'll start arguing with you all the time if he was expecting a fast piece of ass rather than a decent girl he has to obey. You'll know if his horse riding jokes turn into fits of anger,..that's when you tell him to get lost. Players don't like to wait too long because they could have been with the next one in less than the month or two you make him sweat. One other thing is that I notice you said you have many hobbies, and that when the guys hear about them they seem to back off.. Yes, alot of guys might shy away from the busy girl, but there are always a few serious ones who will stick around if they really want to be with you for a long time. So that's another really good reason to make him wait it out for quite a while before you ever give in and let him do the hanky panky with you. Let him do the wanky spanky with himself for a long time, first. This will separate the man from the mouse.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Yes it's normal.. but it's not something you are interested in yet. Tell him, you don't want sex your too young. Actually, nice guys don't mention sex, even though they think about it a lot. This guy dosen't sound like one of the nice ones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwait, he just brought up sex
I was talking about me horses, and how I ride, and he started asking sexual things,....is this normal for guys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeahh, my brother went to him, I didn't ask him too, I think that would be silly,
But we talked today and he's actually going to come to my dance concert tuesday night and then dinner after,
THANK YOU EVERYONE :)))
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk well last night we went to a church concert, and he was there, my friend told him and he said he couldn't do that because of my ex boyfriend but my brother talked to him and he said he wanted to take things slow (because he rushed his last relationship that he just recently got other), so that was PERFECTLY ok with me, and I explained to him that I didn't mean I wanted to start going out with him the next way I mean talk for awhile and see how that goes,
So tomorrow we're gonna see if acts different or even sits by me like he normally does, I hope this doesn't change that!
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reader, Cowboy255 +, writes (27 February 2010):
Just relax to me it sounds as if he likes you and not all guys are the same, see some guys want sex and some want love I think he does like you though . But don't dwell on your past experiences if we always worry, well we will never really live find out exactly what this guy is made if you think you wanna try getting to know him find out what makes him tick,
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reader, lifeisshort +, writes (27 February 2010):
Best to find the guys who are nervous and or geeky around girls if you want a one who isn't going to be trying to get into your pants. And yes it sounds like the guy tickling you, feeling your leg likes you, is it just to get sex I can't say, sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010): I've honestly known a couple gay people who were like that with some girls, so I can't say for sure if he is straight or gay, for starters. If you're interested in hooking up with him, hopefully he's straight or bi. He's certainly flirting in his own way, but to what extent he likes you, you'll only find out by dating him. If he seems to spend a lot of his time trying to sex you up more so than just being with you and doing things with you besides making out and porking, he's probably another one of them.. If you are interested in him, go for it.. Maybe it will be one of the better things you've done for yourself in life. It may just amount to some good times with this guy..so be it. He seems interested in you, so unless you get a creepy vibe off him, give him a chance.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (27 February 2010):
Sounds like he likes you, so him a sign that you'd be interested in getting closer.
Don't get upset about the past. Some people are different from you, have different interests and different values. That's just the way life is, you'll find your perfect match eventually.
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