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writes: I just want to know some people's opinions on meeting up with someone you met online. I know sometimes it's dengerous meeting someone you only know online. We've been e-mailing back and forth for a few weeks, he lives in my town, and he has not pressured me into meeting. He let me know that he would like to meet me, but left it up to me whether I want to or not. That's made me think he's a decent guy. But I don't know. I'm a bit nervous about the idea, but I've already said yes to him and we've made a time and date (tomorrow!). If I'd met him in a chat room I'd be hesitant but the fact we met via a personals website makes me think he's serious about this. But I don't know, I'm a bit nervous, I don't know if I should cancel or take a chance?
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reader, progressivethinker +, writes (15 December 2006):
I have been on, on line dating and I have not been to happy because what it attracts is dirty old men. I am not joking but once a man of 65 winked at me and he was after women between the ages of 18-50, get real what woman in this age group is looking for a man aged 65 unless he has lots of money and she can have a young lover on the side. Apprently it is women's greatest complaint about men is they are always seeking younger women. I guess men feel that they can dominate a younger woman or because it makes them feel young. These men are so stupid because I put on my profile that I wanted to meet men between the ages of 25-40 and I still get men way over this age group trying to make contact. I think the problem with on line dating is it does attract dirty old men. I find it very depressing because I wish men were able to see how they look to others and go for women their own age, especially as men age quicker on average as they loose collagen in their skin at an earlier age than women. I think it is terrible that they go for younger women. So basically I find on line dating very depressing. I wish that men would go for their own age group or older women, but not younger. World wide there is more men under 50 years old and more women over 50 so its logical for women to take younger men and I would think that men should be the ones to go for older women.As far as the question goes on should the woman who wrote the article met the man she has been e-mailing, get as much info before hand he could be married. Get his home phone number and address and a photo because he could be a dirty old man before you know, find out where he works, you can even check it up, and once you have done it and it turns out ok, go for it.
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reader, DEBS83  +, writes (2 August 2006):
 go for it i met my new bloke on a dating site i felt the same as you but once you get there you will be fine but make sure you meet him were there are plenty of pp about cus there are some nutters out there but iam sure evything will be ok best of luck
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reader, kat14 +, writes (24 July 2006):
 my mum met her recently made hustband over the internet they met at a pub first of all just for a drink. They have now been together 5 years. I think it can be affective long as your careful and dont go off alone with them till u have met them enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2006): Hello,
Welcome to a new era where meeting people of the internet has become popular and nothing short of being the new form of dating, first you need to take a detailed look into the possible risks.
Dating and meeting online is a wonderful idea if done right but you need to be very careful and when meeting do so in a public place and do so for the following weeks until you have gotten to understand and know a little more about the person you are talking with, dating online is a risky business.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (22 July 2006):
 Rule no. 1) Meet at lunchtime, perhaps for a light meal, (that way you don't get too many 'pregnant pauses'); in a busy place with lots of people around, so that you don't get into an awkward situation, as you would if it were night-time end-of-evening 'come-in-for-coffee'-type scenario. Don't drink too much, and make your own way there, and home, so then he can't find out where you live and become a nuisance if things don't go well.
2) Don't give him any personal information, such as bank or financial details - some people can be grooming others in order to defraud them. Make sure he is not just trying to gain your trust - for money OR sex!!
3) Do take your time with on-line dating; bear in mind that it is all too easy to contact many people at the same time, and someone who you have come to know and like/love can disappear just as quickly as they appeared into your life, and leave you wondering why..he could be married, or travelling a lot with his job and looking for a 'girl in every port' - (much in the way sailors have a reputation for!!) So don't wade in too deep for the time being.
Other than that, just enjoy, as you would any other date. I do apologise if some of this advice sounds too obvious, however I hope it helps - Good luck!
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