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*aphne...x
writes:Hey, this is my second time asking for help with guy problems haha, I guess I just don't have any luck.Well I met this guy online and totally clicked with him. He lives not that far from me, a couple of train rides away. Early on in the chatting he made it clear that he really liked me and didn't wanna get hurt by me going off with other guys while talking to him. So I didn't. He seemed really interested in me, and he's even flipped out a couple of times when he thought I had went off with someone else, and was really mean about it. But he came back and started talking to me again, saying he likes me too much even after the short time we spoke. It felt like we were in an actual relationship before we even met.I decided to meet up with him a few weeks ago and it went really well, he's gorgeous, funny and buys me things all the time. I've met up with him a good few times since and we are seeing each other. We have sex everytime we meet, I just can't control myself when I'm with him, I'm so infatuated. But now, it just feels like he's not as interested when I talk to him online, but he's so different in person. My insecurities are getting the better of me because I really really like him. I'm scared that I'm moving too fast and he's just trying to take it slow. It's always me who plans to meet up and I feel like he's just agreeing to save hassle. The wierd thing is he gets really jealous with other guys, thinking I fancy them all the time, but he never really shows that much interest any other time.My question is do you think he's still interested but just taking his time? Or do you think he's just keeping me there out of sympathy? We've only been together about a month.
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reader, Daphne...x +, writes (16 December 2010):
Daphne...x is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. He ended up dumping me shortly after me posting this :/ but I guess am glad because I think if it did go on any longer he would have been more controlling. Once again, thanks alot! :)
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reader, rcn  +, writes (15 December 2010):
 I think this is something that you need to discuss with him. Because of how quick you two were to having sex, you may be in a relationship that has sex as it's foundation. This is fine, if that's what you're looking for, but it sounds like you're seeking more than that. So, you two need to talk.
The issue I find is with his jealousy. It's okay to want to be exclusive, and to be upset when someone cheats, but it seems as if his is half cocked without having any foundation to support his claims. Fearing that you're doing something that you're not could cause him to emotionally withdraw as well. But you need to keep in mind. That issue is not yours, it is his.
What I'm worried about with you is getting into a situation where you can't look at or talk with a male friend without him making accusations or flying off the handle. That would not be a good place for you to enter into. After one month, he's already showing signs of that being a possibility. You're young, and although no one should have to go through something like that, at your age it will destroy who you are as an individual. I don't care how hot you say he is, no guy is worth giving up who you are to please or compensate for their egotistical lack of self esteem.
I hope this helps you.
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