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writes:the one i love, the one i would die for is now in love with my best friend, and my best friend is in love with him. iam so upset she says to me on msn that iam selfish and a sl_t. shes the one selfish i am so in love with him and after every thing we have done together she wants to take it all away. my best friend is so pretty and lovely but she is being so mean i dont under stand. what do i do if they go out?
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reader, nancyhasglasses  +, writes (11 June 2009):
You're under 20, you have no clue what love is. Your friends will be different in 10 years. Take a deep breath and remember that drama is not your friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): If they do go out, there isn't really much you can do. You can't exactly stop them, can you?
So there isn't anything you can do about them. But there are things you can do about you. You can decide to rise above this situation and carry on with your head held high. You can try to not spend any more time on two people who are clearly only interested in their own feelings, and not those of others. You can do something nice for yourself, to cheer yourself up.
You say this girl is your friend. I'm not trying to tell you to get rid of her, but last time I checked, friends certainly don't say or do things like that. I'm sorry you have been hurt by two peolple you thought you could trust.
My advice would be to let them get on with it, it sounds like you would be better off without them. I know this isn't easy though, and it is your decision what you decide to do. But try not to let them get you too down, they are not worth it. Even this guy. One day, you'll realise it. x
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (11 June 2009):
 Honey, I am sorry, but if HE likes her, and she likes him, you are just going to have to deal with it. The world is not going to end, life will carry on, and YES you will get over it. You may be sad, and you may feel angry. But you are just going to have to be grown up and accept it.Love and relationships are not fair. It takes two people to have a relationship, with mutual feelings on both sides. Sometimes we fall in love with people who dont love us back - unrequited love. There are millions of people all over the world, throughout history who have felt this. yes it sucks, but you carry on.I am sorry to sound harsh, but this isnt a case of her being selfish, its about you not having the guy you want. You are only young - 13-15. He is not the guy you would give your life for, and neither should you even consider it. In a few months you will have got over this guy. The likelyhood is in a few months, this boy will have moved onto another girl as well. Teenage boys are notoriously fickle. By the time you reach 16, 18 you probably won't even remember him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Your best friend is really not being sensitive towards your feelings as a friend. I think you should dump her as a friend. I am afraid if they go out you cant do anything except sabotage their relationship which by the way dont do because it will hurt you and them a lot. Either say to your friend that she knows you really like this guy and you cant accept them going out and see what she says but shes not being a good friend saying you are a slut and being mean. I think you should get rid of her as a friend or at least talk to her seriously.
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reader, Smellyellie +, writes (11 June 2009):
 First of all she is not your best friend as she shouldnt be saying all these nasty things to you. I mean how many other friends have you had been that nasty to you? The problem is with people your age you think you are in love when all you are feeling is the feeling of wanting to be together. Believe me the Crush that you have on this boy will be over soon and you will think what a silly billy you were for liking him.Unfortuanly though there is nothing you can do if this boy is liking your best friend but she still shouldnt be tresting you like this. If it gets anyworse over MSN then remember to print screen the page and show your parents as it is bullying what she is doing to you.If they go out then you should pretend to ingnore it. I know this is easier said then done but in the end your so called friend will get tired of trying to make you gealous and get boered of him. Believe me it all comes out in the wash.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009): Well you'll have to go with it, i mean your best friend is not worth losing to a guy who does not love you! He loves her, face it.
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