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30-35,
*pendy
writes:ive been chatting to this guy i met on plenty of fish.. hes rings me and we met up and went out last night..hes really sweet.. he even bought me a christmas present and paid for the movie and everything..but i think he likes me.. cos he was all getting close etc:but the thing is hes not my type..am not attracted to him at all:(but hes seems really nice..gives me attention,,listens. really sweet. rings me..but i dont feel nothing for him but sorry cos i dont like him like that:)what do i do?? i dont wanna hurt him:(i feel realy bad..:( yesterday he asked what happened with my ex..i told him and he said maybe i could move on with someone like him..but am not attracted to him so thats impossible.thnx..:)am 20 and hes 22
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): You probably should not have let him pay for the movie. Now you definately need to tell him. And I would signify it by giving him the money back for your ticket, telling him that he can use it for his own ticket next time you two go to see a movie. He might decide he's not interested in only friendship. If he seems ok with it, make sure he is not just agreeing to the friendship in the hopes that he can somehow win your heart in the future, unless you are ok with that far-fetched prospect and the poorly hidden flattery that that might entail.
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reader, AgonyUncleDan +, writes (30 December 2009):
 Hey, I know what you're going through believe me and the easiest thing to do is just tell him, i know it's easier said than done but the longer you carry on this facade the harder it is to stop. Explain that you would like to be friends and no more. With any relationship your heart has to be in it to make it work, if it isn't it's just a strain on you and unfair to the other party member. I can't really say more than that the rest is up to you.
-AgonyUncleDan
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