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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ok so hear is my question. Me and my fiancé broke up for a couple months for one months she was seeing her ex we have gotten back together but she says she has unfortunate feelings for him and will not allow new feeling to happen between them but she feels she needs to keep him as a friend because she was a step Mother to his daughter for 5 years they have been split up for over 5 years except this one month time when we were apart. Before we got back together she asked him if he would give her what she wanted and needed such as marriage living together and being faithful and quiting drinking he said no shortly after she chose me with advise from friends and family telling her to follow her heart and go we're the love is. I am uncomfortable with him remaining in the back ground of our relationship because of these unfortunate feelings she says she has.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 May 2012):
 She says she will not let her feelings develop any more with this man, but she cannot control how she feels. I understand that she might want to stay in contact with his daughter as she was a huge part of her life, but maybe this could be arranged without him being involved. It is really not healthy for her to remain staying friends with him when she still has feelings for him, especially as she only finished with him because he could not give her what she wanted. Feelings just don't die though, so I totally understand why you are not feeling comfortable about this. You need to sit down with her and explain that though, tell her how it has made you feel, explain to her that you would just not feel comfortable and try and come to a compromise, ask her if it was reversed how she would feel.
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