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*yleewolf
writes:Ok and boyfriend have been together for about 3 years now. I knew he read dirty stories, he never got into the porn pics. I was ok but for the last few months It has started to annoy me. He does it mostly because 1. I will not give into him. I really have had no sex drive but then again. we live with my mom 2 sisters and our 20 month old son in a small house. and our room is right next to my moms...so yeah i have no sex drive. and 2. like I said samll house 4 women 1 man. so i let him read and have fun. but lately it just has started to annoy me. what should I do? Like I said he read stories he does not look at porn it really does nothing for him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2012): I was not aware that men "read" porn...they are always portrayed as visual creatures...I didn't know they would take the time to actually read words telling a pornagraphic story..interesting...You guys need to get out and on your own, and rekindle your sex life...you are way too young to be losing your sex drive already...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2012): Hii no disrespect but how can you moan about dirty stories? It's text. Porn pics are way worse. I'd love my boyfriend to have read dirty stories instead of looking at porn pictures. How do you know he isn't thinking of you when he reads them? Count yourself lucky!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2012): You shouldn't really allow this to annoy you. GIVEN your living situation. I am a young mother and had to live with my mother,grandfather(complete psycho)my new born baby (att a dead beat boyfriend) in a very small house.
-I understand the lack of sex. It's just not appealing plus you don't want that atmosphere around your mother or child for so many obvious reasons. Cause of this, your boyfriend has turned more into the dirty stories.
-This should really NOT be a problem. As pinktopaz has stated. "be happy it's stories and not other women" There is much truth to that than you want to believe. BUT there is also the fact you should be very happy to know he is READING dirty stories. Not looking at porn. Take it into the matter of "He honestly might be seeing you as the story" That should be a compliment. (One of my exes loved that anime porn. That was DOWN RIGHT ANNOYING)
I, myself enjoy the dirty stories. I always see my husband as the one I'm "lusting" for.(At least that's how I vision it) Maybe it is the same for him, he is thinking of you.
Now with what else pinktopaz has said. ( I honestly enjoy much of my fellow aunt's answers) You need to come up w/ a night that it is just YOU an HIM. Any way you can. Go out for a walk in the park and spend time with each other. Remember what brought you together in the first place. IF you do not do this, it really will tare at your relationship. (I hope you can see how so)
You could always spice things up a bit. After I just had my child I did not want ANY sexual contact. From reason of "not in the mood" & "I did not want another child" etc. Now that I am w/ my husband his sex drive has been very high (I do not mind tbh.) BUT sometimes it gets old. So spice it up!! It really does help. You could have fun in the woods, get a good friend to baby sit and rent a hotel room for a night to have romance.
Just sweetie, You need to do something if you want this relationship to work. I'm not trying to be rude at all & I apologize if I do come off rudely. I hope this helps, & please let us know how everything turns out.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (8 May 2012):
Sounds like you need to figure out the deal with your sex drive and that you two need a date night. Will this ultimately end his wanting to read porn stories? Probably not. But at least it will give him less of an excuse. Also, at least he's reading stories instead of getting his kicks elsewhere from someone else.
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