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36-40,
*oldontome
writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for 1.5 years. Things were going really great until I left the country for 3 months because of school. I came back thinking everything was the same.... and is not. He suggested to break up with me.I panicked and he didn't end up breaking up with me. Now he brings up breaking up with me once a week or so. I refuse to break up with him. So he stays with me. I know it's not because of another girl.. but more like he says he doesn't see me in his future anymore. He is giving me 1 year to prepare for the breakup. But I refuse to prepare for anything because I want it to work out between him and I. I really don't want to give up just like that. We finally ended our conversation with "fine. I'll be with you just because I'll take responsibility". (because of we're both were virgins) How do I fix our problem? I want it to be back where it was before I left the country..... Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 June 2010):
Please stop being so stubborn with this guy. He wants to break up, but is a coward and won't do it himself, so he's pushing you to do it. You're now just being used and you're allowing it. There is no way that this will be worked out, because he won't work it out. One way or another, this will end. The question is whether you are going to sit there and allow yourself to be treated this way. I can think of a few reasons to break up with him. I can't think of one for you to say. And I don't mean this to sound like an insult, but you're being very naive and stubborn if you think he gives a damn and that this can be worked out. It's already over. There is no use in you sacrificing your self respect and dignity for a guy who is treating you so cruelly. Just end it now and get it out the way. Or in a year, you'll be in even more pain when he finally does get it together.
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