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writes:I'm heartbroken..! I've been dating the love of my life for over two years (on and off!), she knows I love her, but has never been able to tell me the same, though her actions (she always does the running after causing a rift).She has blamed her childhood, her 2nd husband walking out on her for her problems, but she gets so stressed often by everyday life, her job etc, I seriously think she needs help, but she doesn't realise what a difficult person she is........She's vain, selfish, self-centered and hasn't really got much to offer in a relationship, I know that, but I love being with her, and love her like I've loved no other...........but we've split again after getting closer than ever before and I'm on the verge of giving up on her.We do everything couples would do, but she insists on calling it a friendship........It's always one step forward and two back, I feel we'll never get there.Shall I just lose contact??(This sounds teenage, but we're both in out 50's!!)Thanks,Dave
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the advice everyone....you've all given me help.......and food for thought, I do think that although she can't commit, she doesn't want to lose my "friendship"..........and I do agree that blaming everything else for the way she is is avoiding taking any blame for anything!
She needs to accept resposibility.......
thanks again,
Dave
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): When you're in love, it always feels like the teenage years! I am sorry you are in so much pain! But, as others said, maybe a wake-up call would...well...wake her up! She may feel very sure of herself with you. She knows that you will be there waiting for her to come back! Tell her you are not going to wait for her forever! Take control of the situation! You call the shots! You need to let her know that the game is over, and if she doesn't wake-up, she just may lose the best thing that ever happened to her!
And the blaming her behavior on her childhood, and her 2nd marriage???? She needs to grow up and take responsibiltiy for her behavior! You are right about her self-centeredness, she is blaming everyone else, so she doesn't have to be accountable! It's time for her to grow-up! If she's not willing...there are some beautiful ladies out there who would love to find a man like you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Icelordess too...........you're a great bunch XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks........good advice I think, thanks for understanding!
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