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writes:ive been in love with my ex for some time, but i broke up with him because what he says and what he does are 2 seperate things. he says he loves me, but he tells my friends he wants nothing to do with me whenever he gets mad. i really want to be with him, but im not sure if he really does love me, or if he's just playing me. what should i do about him?------------my ex told me yesterday that he loved me and cared about me more than anyone else, yet today he told me he doesnt remember saying any of that because he was "drugged" on pills. so he gets off of facebook after telling me he loves me like a friend. our whole relationship was like this, one minute he loves me (he says) and the next its like nothings there! he gets my hopes up and then smashes them into the ground. i still want us to be friends, and i dont want to piss him off, so how do i tell him im tired of his crap?[Mod note: two posts from same user combined here.]
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reader, raiders +, writes (11 June 2010):
 I think you should break contact with him, You still have feelings for him in a romantic status and your friendship with him will only hurt you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): he is not worth it girl, be strong and tell him it is over take control and be the better person, maybe after a day tell him that you still want to be friends. hope that helped:)
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reader, maidangela7349  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 Your feelings for this guy only you can deal with but I can tell you that if you stick with him you are building up a whole load of trouble for yourself. It is not often that people change basicly. Okay he may mellow over time but not while you are putting up with him. The sensible and obvious advice is leave him strictly alone and find someone else. If your feelings for him prevent you doing that then you have my deepest sympathy
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reader, s143k  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 I think you should tell him how you feel and that you wanna be friends nothing much even though you love him but you are not a toy to play with your emotions one day he wants you and next day he doesn't, my opinion you should talk to him tell him how you feel and that love is not a game I know you love him but you deserve some one who really loves you truly not someone that tells you he loves you and then he deny it after a minute
Tell him in a calm way everything and how you feel about the way he is treating you and you just wanna be friends
You have to move on and find someone better
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (11 June 2010):
 While you are thinking clearly, write a long letter describing in detail how you feel and how you see the problem(Not Facebook) then mail it to him and wait for two weeks. IF he can resolve his problems he'll write back(Not Facebook) then re-evaluate. Long letters are much more revealing and personal and much less threatening(so you won't 'tick him off or hurt him') We've all forgoten how to write letters (due to electronic communication) but the old ways are more better in these situations-confrotations ae minimized via the written word. lots of luck and best wishes, R
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reader, cheergirl95 +, writes (11 June 2010):
honey, if he tells your friends he hates you or something like that, he's either scared to show his feelings, or he's playing you like you said. basically what you need to do is tell him what your feeling, and if he loves you he'll listen and try to make things better. but you cant let him keep hurting you, its not a very healthy relationship. just tell him to tell you when he makes up his mind and other then that dont give you anymore crap. tell him its hurting you and its not good for you to be treated like this. and once again, if he loves you, he'll understand.
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