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writes:what do i do when i really like this guy, i've dated him before and we've had sex lots of times, were not dating right now, i'm kinda making him my dirty little secret (cheating) but i really like him and i don't wanna hurt the guy i'm with...idk what to do plz help.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): Right now you are hurting and disrespecting your BF whether you want to or not. It's bad enough to be cheated on, it's even worse to be cheated on with an ongoing affair like you are doing. (And what happens if you give your BF an STI from this other guy? If you think that kind of lying/cheating won't happen to you, well, so does your BF right now. You are no more immune than he is.)I suggest you stop hurting him and just break it up. Try to get your "thing on the side" to be your regular BF if that's what you want. If your "thing on the side" will sleep with you casually but not be your BF then you are just being used for sex.
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reader, monacons  +, writes (29 November 2011):
Your very young to be juggling with this.. Best advice i can give u is if you were in a relationship before with him and it did not work out, chances are it wont either this time around!! If you dont want to hurt the guy your now with you should not lead him to believe there is along term relationship between ye.. Put him down gently and keep his feelings in mind..
Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): You how are old and using boys for sex? Cannot be faithful? Is the world really that funked up?
Jeeze.
Chose one or the other. Tell current BF the truth;that will probably result in a decision for you anyways.
Break the habit of being selfish and hurting others by doing your best from this day forth of living honestly.
Otherwise you will just be another serial cheater, sleeping around, lying, and increasing the chance of STIs as well as bringing a threat/danger to your possible partners of herpes, AIDS or anything else that is long term.
Careless.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (29 November 2011):
 Do you have a boyfriend at the moment, in addition to your dirty little secret?
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