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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and things are wonderful. I knew before we started dating that he had had boyfriends before. He still keeps explicit pictures of him with his ex boyfriend and it bothers me. I found them one day and don't know what to do.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (9 February 2006):
 Tell him they annoy and upset you and you want him to bin them, see what his reaction to this is, did you "find" them because you were looking and if you were is it because deep down you dont trust him, are you quite sure you are fine about his ex partner being male?
Does he know you have to photo`s and if so then yes it is fine to follow my first bit of advice and see what happens.
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reader, charlie432 +, writes (9 February 2006):
I found pic's of my current bf and his ex before...I wasn't impressed as you can imagine. as neither are you. men are weird creatures and can't understand why we don't like to see these pic's. they like to keep them as a "personal collection" of achievements (as my ex told me!)...all you can really do is ask him to get rid of them if they bother you that much. I made my bf delete them (after which I found them again! cheek!), as long as I don't see them, it doesn't bother me. If I don't know they are there then it doesn't hurt! another option is to have photo's of you two, then ask him to delete the other ones as he now has a new set! sure he won't mind then! hope I've been of some help! Charlie x
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reader, Clarey +, writes (9 February 2006):
 How did you find them? There is no difference between that and keeping pictures of a girlfriend I suppose. It all depends on how this makes you feel. I had a boyfriend who told me he had paid for sex a few times and although he said it was in the past (several years) I had a strange reaction over time. Even though I liked him I could not get over it and became a paranoid lunatic, checking his phone and going through his stuff. All it meant was that we were not compatible. You may well be, I am not saying otherwise. You probably need to give yourself time to work out if you can accept his bisexuality, as well as the fact that he likes to take photos and keep them. Try to get over it, talk to him and see how you feel
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