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writes:dear qupidi like this girl, she's about one year younger than me, and we're close friends (we always come to eachother for advice, and we always hang out).not too long ago, i told her how i felt, and i got a really long responce about how she doesnt feel the same way, but will make sure it doesnt effect our friendship, and it hasnt, we're still the same as we were, but over the past week or so, she's been asking me alot of questions about it, allong the lines of "why do you like me over other girls?" ect. and its kinda confusing, because sometimes its like she's hoping for something, and i dont know what it is.so, my question is, what do her questions mean? and (as a side question) is there any way to help the relationship to a different level? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sincerely Yours  +, writes (11 March 2011):
 I would say because she wants to hear good things about her. It's ok. It's normal for girls and guys too I'm sure (although they hide it better). She is just flattered and digging for more. I think she should stop though, because every time she asks yoou a question like that, it's making you think about her even more. It's selfish. Ask her to stop.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (11 March 2011):
In my own personal opinion it's just vanity. She wants to hear you talking about how great a girl she is. She already told you which zone you are, and it's friend zone.If you are not sure about it anyway, the best you can do is ask her why she's asking you this.
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reader, Auntie Mel +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Well first of all I'm glad too see that you have still been able to keep your friendship. This is a great sign of having a strong friendship.
I'm not entirely sure myself what she is suggesting, your best bet to find out the truth, is to answer her questions honestly and actually ask her yourself why she is asking the questions or if she would like to reconsider your request.
If you do ask her make sure you point out if not its fine and that your friendship will continue as it is, also don't say too much for she may feel slightly pressured.
Good Luck and I really hope this helps xx
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (10 March 2011):
 Because it is flattering to hear whu a boy likes you, even if you don't like the boy as more than a friend.
You say she already wrote you a long reponse telling you she doesn't have any romantic feeling for you, so I think you need to believe her. One has nothing to do with the other I'm afraid...
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