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*tar2010
writes:I am a 23yr old virgin. Whenever I go out men are always complimenting me..asking if Im a model.. and trying to get my number. I am tall, i work out, eat healthy, am very stylish/classy, and I love God. I live with my dad, grandma, and my dog. I currently do not have a job or car but I am working on my music while receiving unemployment. I perform live whenever I can. My dad is very supportive of me. I have guys ask me out sometimes but I don't trust many of them and the ones I meet drink, curse, have pre-marital sex and still hang out in clubs. I am a fun and good hearted girl who has a close relationship with God. I believe that sex is only for marriage and when I am in a relationship with someone...I want there to be a purpose. I don't deserve to be treated as a "fling" or a toy. I think the main purpose of adult dating is to build a healthy relationship with a person who you can potentially marry. My question is....what do guys my age think of young ladies like me??? Be Honest...I can handle it. xo Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico +, writes (31 August 2010):
You are a gem of gems, and a guy will be very lucky to get you.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 August 2010):
 A "real" man won't ask if you're a virgin. When and if he finds out, a REAL man will respect you more than you'll ever know. Too many women your age have given it away for little or or no real reason and a REAL man is in awe of those girls that can manage to be in control. You hang in there and hjust wait you will make a real man a very happy and faithfull husband someday if that's your ultimate goal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): You should be cherished. If a man does not cherish a woman like you, he is not worthy of you. Find the guy who respects you, and you will make each other very happy.
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reader, daletom +, writes (31 August 2010):
I hope the subject of your sexual history (or lack thereof) doesn't even come up until a few weeks, or even months, into a relationship. In all honesty, if you feel compelled to advertise that characteristic from the start then in some ways you aren't any different from an ultra-promiscuous girl: You're saying that your sexuality is the most important thing about you.
Aside from that, I married a girl much like you! It didn't take me long to make the decision, and we're still married (yes, to each other!) over 36 years later. We waited until our wedding night to have sex. No, that wasn't easy, and the first time was pretty lousy sex - but it was very significant and meaningful to both of us. Especially because it was something that we had reserved for each other.
We didn't meet in bars or clubs. We were introduced by a (much older) mutual acquaintance within the Christian community who knew we were both looking for relationships, and saw compatibility between us. (From time to time we send her flowers on our wedding anniversary.)
In fact, we didn't even "meet" at first. We wrote to each other, progressively more serious letters, on real paper (or perhaps a friendship card), for 3 months before we saw each other in person. It certainly wasn't planned that way, but in retrospect it was probably a good way for two quiet-and-shy people to get acquainted and become almost-in-love. A year plus 2 weeks after we first saw each other, we were married.
When we met, my wife and I were 22 and just out of college. She was living at home with her parents (her grandparents were about 5 miles away), and she didn't have a car. She DID have a teaching job - which was certainly NOT making her rich and famous. I was a grad student. That's all to say that most of our dating experience occurred as houseguests of each others' families. It DID feel a little strange being around her mom and dad that much, but it certainly built trust and understanding and in the long run it has been beneficial.
Does that answer your questions - as well as the ones you meant to ask?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): I can't begin to explain how much respect I have for you without even meeting you. I wish I had met a woman like you. I would be a lot happier today. You are special. Congratulations!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): I am a virgin who is several years older than you. I have enough going for me to get my share of single sex but I value saving it too much. I would love to find a fellow virgin and I'm getting pretty pessimistic that it will ever happen. I am not religious BTW.
None of my male friends are virgins besides me. Out of the 5 or 6 that are single and looking for a relationship, I think about 2 or 3 of them would date a virgin without expecting to get sex any time soon.
I know all except one of them would have high respect for you being a virgin at this age.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 August 2010):
Most will love it. Some won't. Again, it depends on the guy. Overall, please don't worry about any of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2010): I really think you have done well, better then any woman i have seen, stick to your morals you'll find the right guy and he'll understand you :)
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reader, star2010 +, writes (31 August 2010):
star2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat do Men think of VIRGINS??
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 August 2010):
The right guy will think you're a gem. The wrong one will think you're a challenge. So you stick to your beliefs and morals, and when you meet the right guy, you'll be perfectly fine. Take your time.
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