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writes:I am 14 and a freshman in high school. I have a lot of guy and girl friends but no boyfriend and lately I have been questioning myself. Three of my closest friends recently got boyfriends and they are always talking about them. I feel so left out, lonely, ugly, and worthless. I have never been kissed, been on a date or had a boyfriend. I am 5' 11", a 38D (which I constantly get noticed for :)), and curvy (not overweight but a little more than normal. My friends keep feeling me that love just happens, but I just want someone to hold, hug, kiss, and tell me that I am beautiful. Any tips for flirting? Also, I have a lot of guy friends but I really can't see myself in a relationship with any of them. Any tips on what guys look for in potiential girlfriends? Will I ever have a relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): You're bloody fourteen, of course you'll have a relationship, gosh, you're so young, get over it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 December 2009):
Just relax and be yourself. Guys at your age will be a little immature. Don't worry though. There's nothing wrong with you at all. Just take your time, get to know guys and speak to them so you understand them a bit more, and let them get to know you. Just because you don't have a boyfriend doesn't man that you're not a great girl. But if guys think you're underconfident, they'll get a little scared. So be confident with yourself, just have patience and speak to guys so you understand them. Then you'll find a guy who really likes you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): Oh my gosh, you are a tall and womanly and teen boys are so nerdy and smallish most of them. They are probably intimidated by you.
I am sorry that you let "not having a boyfriend" define who you are. I think your girlfriends who have boyfriends are playing at adulthood. They talk about their boyfriends as if it is a badge of honor or a status symbol, they haven't a clue what a mature relationship with a member of the opposite sex is all about, nor should they at this age...they are just trying it on and believe me they will outgrow this sooner than later.
I would NOT worry about NOT having a boyfriend. You are too young to be concerned about that in the first place. Strive to have "friends who are boys" not "boyfriends". Because you really need to be focused on high school and graduating with honors or good grades so that you can get into the college of your choice.
Then my dear, the boys will have caught up with your goddess self and they will be possibly more worth your time and make better boyfriends than high school boys ever would.
You really are worrying about the wrong things. Don't feel left out, feel that you are too focused on what matters to be so concerned about a trifling matter as a school girl fling.
Take care and have a wonderful Holiday Season.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): Sweetie, you are so young to be worrying about this. I was 18 before I had my first relationship. You are definitely not ugly or worthless. You just haven't met the right guy yet. You will have a relationship one day, I promise. The most important thing you can do is be confident and friendly, and just see what happens. In the meantime, just have fun and work hard in school. You have so much ahead of you; don't let this get you down!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (19 December 2009):
 WOW your 5"11' at 14 and the 38D thing impressive that explains alot im going to have to suggest that guys are intimidated by you. what guys go for in HS they go for looks, and there's no real standard you cant help who you like one guy can think a particular girl is gorgeous and another guy will think she isnt. after looks im going to say guys go for girls that are actually attainable meaning if a guy thinks hes a 4 hes not going to talk to a 8. The chess club guys will not be going out with any cheerleader or any girl probably. Judging by your measurements there wont be to many 14 yr old boys asking you out but theres still sophmores and juniors the senior guys are going to be into older girls.
Heres a tip be more agressive alot of HS boys are shy if they see a pretty girl they may assume shes so pretty she must have a BF allready or she wont like me shes way to pretty blah blah blah. so if you see a guy you like try introducing your self who says the guy always has to do the talking its 2010 not 1941, have a good holiday and good luck
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reader, deathbydarkness +, writes (19 December 2009):
Well the first thing they look at is your body, then they look at who you assoiciate with then often enough they talk to you and don't try to use a seductive like charm it puts people in a odd situation just laugh with the dude and chat give hints and he'll soon catch on (i am only thirteen so...)
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