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writes: what, what I did really that bad...?..okay I am an only doughter of four and I feel like my parents over protect me... last night I went to my x-boyfriends ( were trining to work things out and take it slow) house to watch a movie..(we didn't do anything bad) however,my parents don't know that. the problem was that it was around 9:40 and the streets were dark ( he lives a block away from me) we stopped for a min. and that's where my parents showed up.although we weren't hugging or kissing or anything like that they still triped... n they said that we looked bad in the dark on the streets...(what do u think???)I feel I am a 17teen year old that has no life and tries to be someone she doesn't want to...I don't go out as much my friends all say my parents over protect me(if I go to a party I have to be back at 10 if I go over to a friends house my mom needs to talk to theirmom sometime...) I don't know what to do... I talked about it with my aunt n she says I'm scared of my own mom... is that true..?..( because I can't stand for my self)
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reader, Tashie08  +, writes (10 May 2011):
i think this is true. I think you ned to hold your head up high and have a long hard talk with her. Jut tell her that you love her, that you appreciate their concern but you're nearly an adult. You need to explore the world and make your own mistakes,you'll always be their little girl, but they have to let you spread your wings a some point.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (10 May 2011):
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Your parents only want the best for you I feel, and I must agree, I have a 17yr old daughter and I would not like for her to be standing on the street with a boy at that time of night, Not because I dont trust her, but because the world is so much different today from when we were younger. There is so many nasty violent people out there today its scary, and you wont know how your parents feel untill you one day have a child of your own.As for going to a freinds and wanting to speak to the parent, this is in case anything was to happen they know where you are.And being back from a party by 10 o clock is a resonalbe time for a young girl your age, but if your with lots of freinds and they can walk you home, then maybe 11.30 is ok too. However if you feel its more than just this, and that they are overly protective, then you need to find the courage to sit down and speak to them about how you feel, dont argue about it as it will get you nowhere. Just explain that you feel your growing up fast now, and that you need to be able make some mistakes in life to learn by them, how are you supossed to learn by them if you cant make them? but agree to set some rules, i.e times to be in, certain areas your allowed to go, if you both show eachother respect on these terms, theres no reason why they wont give you a little more freedom.
But rememeber they only love you and are looking out for you, there are many children out there that have parents who dont care about them or what they do, and they end up lonely and hurt. And there are many parents who abuse and hurt there children, It sounds like you have a caring family, so hold on to that, because you WILL see one day when you have your children.
I hope this has helped
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