What did I do and what is he doing?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Okay..this is a long story so just try and keep up. At the end of July this year (2010) I met this guy, M.A.D (Since that's the initals to his first, middle and last name). I met him through a guy that I've known for five years and used to like me but we never dated or had anything serious. When I met M.A.D there was INSTANT attraction and chemistry, we just sorta suppressed it because of the way we met, through a friend of mine who is a cousin of his who used to like me. He (MAD) reached out to me through myspace to keep it a secret because we weren't sure if anyone's feelings would be hurt. At first I was apprehensive because at the time I was single and not looking because I had already been thorugh so much from previous relationships. I told him we could talk on the phone as friends but that's pretty much all I was looking for. We spoke periodically on the phone, and he came to see me often, spending time with me just talking and getting to know me better. There wasnt anything sexual involved and he never let on like he wanted sex, we just chilled and shared personal, deep secrets. He told me things that no one else knew about him so I thought we had a connection. I really started to like this boy and was certain that I had him in the bag. And then eventually, about a month later it became sexual for the first time, it was the first and last time we ever did anything. We spoke periodically after that, he called me and texted me as usual. Then everything started to change. I didn't panic at first because when we initially met, he didn't have a job and neither did I. I began going to school and working after we met and he eventually got a job too. His reasons are he's busy lately getting his life together and he doesn't have as much time for me as before. I can agree with that to an extent but I still don't think that a week (and sometimes more) should go by and I don't get at least a text. If I don't text/call him, we just don't hear from each other. And whenever I do get him to answer the phone he sounds angry with me or irritated that I'm even on the phone with him. He says he's not a phone person but when we first met we were on the phone often. Now I can barely get him to text me back. I don't wanna chase him and I don't wanna play the hard to get game either. Somewhere along the line he lost interest and I can't figure out where and why. He says that I annoy him and we should just "chill" for a minute and see what happens. He denies losing interest and his excuse is that our personal lives have changed but just recently he moved out of his cousin's house (my friend of five years) and got a car and an apt. He lied to me and told me he didn't have a car, and even lied about having one job when I was told he has two. WTF is going on here? What did I do and what is he doing?

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