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writes: So I'm caught in a an awkward situation with myself. See I'm really good friends with this guy, let's call him Bob, we've been friends forever. We're both the same age, but the thing is I'm gay. He knows, I came out to him 2 years ago. He accepted me, which I'm really thankful for. I don't know what I'd do if he cut me out of his life for that. So I'm glad we're still best friends. But now I'm starting to get strong feelings for him that I can't control. I constantly flirt with him uncontrolably without even knowing. I guess he doesn't notice because we're really good friends and we joke around a lot. But It's come to the point that when he hugs me or he looks at me with those blue eyes, I get aroused. And It's something I have to hide. I don't want to say anything to him or give him a reason to feel wierd or awkward around me. I don't wanna put him in that situation. So I don't know what to do, we spend most of our time together. I can't run away from it. Help!
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reader, Olopocram  +, writes (1 November 2010):
Question is : are you in love with him because you are or because you don't want to be ? Re-read this last sentence, it does make sense :)
Is there a chance — however remote — that he might reciprocate your feelings ? If yes, why don't you risk telling him the truth ? Not that you're in love with him but that you are not sure whether you are or not. If he really likes/loves you as a friend he will understand (and, who knows, maybe more).
If his feelings for you are not the same as yours for him this might result in some uneasiness in your relationship but this should only last a while.
And if he decides to stop seeing you because of that then you will not really have lost a friend, only a dream you had that he was your (caring and understanding) friend.
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