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writes:my boyfriend asked me the other day whether i depend on him or not, i said not really, i mean my definition of depending on him would be sticking to him, and being needy about everything. Then he said that he should depend on me more? I dont really understand what that means, can anyone out there tell me what it is?thank you in advance! Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 May 2010):
Why can't you talk to him about this? You need to learn to communicate since only he knows what's going on in his head.
But what he might mean is that he wants you to feel you can go to him with your problems.
Men NEED to feel needed. It's a caveman thing. They want to know they are YOUR man and are providing and looking after you. They want to "rescue" you and be a hero so you will smile and be all grateful and give him a kiss. It's daft but it makes them just feel all good inside.
You can do this by doing little things. I always ask my husband to open jars for me, and do strong things around the house. Just ask him to do little favours for you every now and then and then he'll feel like he's doing a good job as a boyfriend.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): I'm assuming he means lean on each other more for help, or do more for each other, easing the other one's burdens or work.
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