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writes: Hi,My girlfriend is on holiday in Magaluf with her best 'girl' friend and I can't stop thinking about what she might be up to.We have been together about 3 months and the holiday was booked about 6 months ago. I bit my tongue about her holiday, was kind and helpful about it but I keep getting a sick feeling in my stomach. She contacts me everyday either through call or text but its still another week and a half until she returns.Do girls go on these holidays for the same reasons as men? Do women feel the same disapointment if they dont pull? Is there anything I can do to make myself feel better, or anyway to find out what went on when she gets home - like the best way to phrase it or something?Any comments or advice would be appreciated,Thankyou
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reader, bumble bee +, writes (11 July 2006):
i was in the same situation last year but im the girl, and i can assure you i had NO intention of cheating on my bf and guess what, i didnt. i had so many oppurtunities(sp) and when i said i had a bf, they didnt care as long as he was in england but i just give them a look and walked off. we are not all sex craved animals and we can control ourselves i think you should trust your gf, and if you cant why are you with her?
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (10 July 2006):
 To be honest, even if she's a nice person who would never cheat on you normally, who knows what would happen with some alcohol...But still, you dont have anything strong to go on and she has been calling and stuff every day so dont get too worried.Sorry about the negative start but reading the previous comment really bugged me. I know what you meant by men going on holiday. Men who are in a relationship usually dont go on holiday with the idea of 'pulling' on their mind. Its the single ones. I guess thats what you meant. Since your girlfriend is no longer single, I doubt thats what she was going for.Be happy to have her back and put your worries aside. To make yourself feel better, how about arranging a surprise for her or something?
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (10 July 2006):
 Hi there,
You are being very stereotypical here about the reasons men go on holidays and they feel sad if they don't 'pull'. Are you saying that you think all men are pigs and cheat on their girlfriends/wives when they're away? Are you saying you have done this before hence the reason you're worried about what your girlfriend is up to?
If your girlfriend has done nothing to make you suspicious of her actions, then don't bother fretting yourself into a frenzy of worry, as there would be no reason to! She is with YOU and I take it you are 'exclusive' - so if she is a decent person and really likes you - then why would she cheat? She is contacting you everyday and after 3 months together you should know what kind of person she is - so just keep saying to yourself SHE IS WITH ME!
The thing is if you question her when she gets home then that will show you have no trust in your relationship, and trust me, she will run a mile. So just nicely and happily ask her all about her trip, look at photos with her, ask questions about the people she met etc but DON'T insinuate that you think she could have done anything. See what her mood is like when she returns, see how happy she is to see you etc and take it from there! xxx
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