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writes:The situation: we're both in our mid-20s and studying to be teachers. We're not friends but are friendly- have done some group assignments together and sometimes talk before class. He's a quiet guy- generally keeps to himself. I'm not the most out-going person either.. I'm not sure how he feels about me, but I have sometimes caught him looking at me... As part of our degree we have been spending a lot of time on practical experience (away from campus), especially over the last few months where we have only had maybe 5 days at university. In May it was his birthday, and as I didnt get to see him I sent him a private message over facebook. He isn't a big user of facebook but it was the only means of communication I had with him.. In my message I included "will have to take you out for belated birthday drinks sometime." He responded positively to that, including in his reply "that would be great, we should definitely do that." As we obviously had a lot of other things on our mind with uni/prac and as I wasn't sure whether he was being serious I left it at him deciding on the details... I had no expectations of hearing back about this until we were back at uni- as I said, we had a lot going on, and he isn't into facebook... I don't know whether he was actually interested or just being polite.. I don't know whether he is the type of guy who would've actually attempted to arrange something had we had the opportunity.. but since May, we have been very busy and I know that he is incredibly stressed out and just focusing on getting through this year, but the first chance we actually had to speak was 2 weeks ago.. and it was a very brief conversation because we were on our way to class, so we didn't get to talk about much..but I'm now wondering where I stand? What could he be thinking at this point? Has my opportunity passed? What can I do, if I get the opportunity to talk to him again, keeping in mind that I am shy and that our time is generally limited?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2013): It's Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2013): I try to put my position on his.
There's this guy from work who always asked me to hang out with him. Its not really a date but I know he likes me.
He just doesn't have the nerve to tell it to me. Maybe for fear of rejection. So it goes on and on. I always tell him sure. Why not. that would be great.
Just like your guy. He made an effort to follow up with me twice about it. But i always have reason to say next time. I always avoid anything that has something to do with him. Because for me he is just a distraction.
Now going back to your concern, If this guy likes you back, he will remind and follow up with you regarding your conversation on face book. If his not into FB but if he likes you and he knows its the only means of reaching you, Say he does not know your phone number. Its enough reason for him to go back and forth to face book.
Has your opportunity passed?
I know you like him very much. Obviously.
My suggestion is why not message him on Facebook again.
Try to ask him about school, maybe he will remember about what you talked about.
All is fair in love and war. No Guts No glory I guess.
If he still has reason's to say next time. You know the answer. his not into you.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (25 August 2013):
 If you're both shy this could go on a while :)
Why don't you casually say, we never did get to have that birthday drink did we? Would you still like too?
Take it from there. If he says no thanks then you know he's not into you. If he says yes, then ask him if he could recommend somewhere etc etc
Just be yourself, open and friendly. One of you will have to make the 1st move.
I hope everything goes well for you x
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