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writes:I am trying to do the NC for 30 days. It's been hard 'cause eventhough I removed my ex- from my FB newsfeed; I still look into her profile and it affects me. I have never been a FB fan; but I did posted pictures of us when we were together. Now, I am seeing pictures of my ex with her new girlfriend. The main reason we broke up was because I wasn't ready to come out as a lesbian and she couldn't stay in the closet with me.It really breaks my heart, and I am trying to remain strong. But, now she is going out with the most outgoing lesbian that could ever exist in the city, and she is coming out on the pictures and making comments of upcoming plans of them together.I want to delete my FB profile completely so that I can move on. But, I don't want her to think that I am weak and that I am deleting my profile because of her. What do you all think???
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 August 2013):
 Just un-friend and block her.. Easiest solution. You keep looking and it isn't HEALTHY for you.
Or, like you mentioned delete your FB. If she thinks you are weak, so what? Don't worry so much what she thinks, you can't control that at all anyways.
I suggest you DON'T play games. That is just juvenile and won't help you heal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2013): It's the difficult thing but the only thing you can do to help yourself move on from her- delete fb. You said yourself you don't much like it, so why do you still have it?
Because it's the social norm: it's considered perfectly normal and very common to stalk your ex on Facebook these days- what person that has a Facebook account doesn't spend hours of their life checking people's profiles, who's saying what, who's tagged with who, who hasn't invited who to whoever's event, who's dating who?
I deleted mine well over a year ago, as I just see it as an unhealthy habit.
You see if you keep your account active, you're just bound to look at her profile- therefore your thoughts will often go back to her.
Facebook is preventing you from moving on... You don't look weak, loads of people delete their accounts for different reasons everyday. And you know what... When you haven't got instant access to what's happening with her you'll think about her less! Seriously! We've all been there.
Get rid! you wont regret it xx :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2013): I got a solution for that, but its a bit bad.
Since your ex have move on already, and posted pictures of her new love, why don't you post a pic of yours with a stranger.
I mean someone she doesn't know.
Don't say anything on the pic. Just post it.
Make her crazy think who the girl your with on your profile photo. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
Your not gonna lie, just post a photo with someone really hot.
She moved on, and your still obsessing with her.
That's really bad news. The least that you can do is make her crazy think who's that girl your with on your photos.
I know its over and she's with someone new, but she will still care who your with.
You need to act like there's nothing wrong and your cool with it. let a pretend bygones be bygones do the trick.
After all I'm pretty sure, you will eventually get over it.
It just takes takes time.
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