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writes:My girlfriend and I have been together a year. An we are inseparable. We live together. She's a stay at home wife kind of thing. My nan passed away a week ago n I've been grieving and at 1st she was there for me but now she's not as caring.Today I went doctors and found out I have an ear and throat infection with a high temperature and she seemed to be a bit moody when I got home. She dealt with the kids and then all of a sudden once they were in bed she told me she has to go out. But bare in mind it's 8 o'clock it's pitch black out there and raining. She doesn't drive and she hasn't got a phone because it broke weeks ago. I said where u going and she said she's going to see her friend who lives 15miles away who's also lost her nan. I said this is out of the ordinary.She got dressed and packed night stuff saying she knows I'm going to say don't come home and start an argument but i said I'm not saying anything and come home but she took them anyway saying she'll be home about 11:30. She knows how I am and I'm annoyed and she still decided to go and told me trust her or not but she's got to go out. And I'm not worried I just feel annoyed that's she would do this. Please help me.. I don't know what to think knowing I can't get hold of her anyhow.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2015): What? This is when you need her the most and she not only is being emotionally distant, but the witch went and talked to a FRIEND? That's disgusting to me. And it shows what kind of a person she is when it really comes down to it: great when times are great, not there when she's really needed. I'd either find a place of my own or tell her to pack her bags unless she's willing to get her act together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2015): She sounds a bit overwhelmed and just needs a but of space. You lost your nan and that's sad of course but being sick and expecting her to wait on you... she might have felt a little trapped. By what you said in your question... you sound a bit controlling. Work on that and give her some space. She's not your mother too
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 December 2015):
 Her bad mood maybe from kids who did not want to go to bed at 8. She rushed them to bed so she could visit her friend. She's a stay at home mom, feeling stuck at home so she wanted to get some fresh air. She also doesn't want to catch your infection.
Maybe she's the kind of person who only cares when there's a death in the family.
If she packs night stuff then she would be staying over night.
If she doesn't have her phone then it must be email notification that her friend lost her nan. If she needs to talk to you she can find a way.
Maybe one day you could ask to meet her friend to be reassured that they are only friends and nothing more. Her friend could contact you too or she could call you over there.
It is indeed out of the ordinary. It's her friend's nan so it's not so much as an emergency she makes it out to be. I am sure she has other family members to deal with that. It's also unfair to you that she did not give you a heads up and just expected you to care for the kids, not knowing when she will be back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2015): It does sound odd. Maybe you could have offered her a ride, to her friends place if you drive. If it becomes a frequent thing maybe you should be concerned
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