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writes:This guy with a girlfriend of 7 years, suddenly starts to flirt with a longtime cowoker. But he started doing this after having a very hot/cold relationship (non-sexual) with another coworker who stopped talking to him. When that coworker gave him the final cold shoulder, he had an outburst and was overheard complaining to thr manager about her coldness towards him, and saying was "done". But would still throw things down and act moody when she's near.Is it possible that right after a coworker stops talking to him, ignores him, he could suddenly become happy after getting close to another coworker whom he never showed the same attention to before? He still acts moody and stares at the cowoker who gave him the cold shoulder. Now he is louder, more confident and flirts a lot with the other long term friend/coworker. And his angry moody way subsided. What could be going on here? Possibly?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has the same attitude with her when she tells him to hus job. She came into work with a new hairstyle (updo) and I heard a few coworkers (males) complimenting it. He quickly turns around to see it but said nothing. Just kept eyeing her.( we are a group of suspicious workers. Hence all this observation.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 April 2016):
 I agree he sounds like a very dumb man, surely he should see that he done wrong and apologize for his actions and rudeness? Maybe he is to stubborn to apologize so he plays other childish games so that this woman can notice him, it sounds to me like he is spoilt, immature and is used to getting his own way.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 April 2016):
 ... Then he is dumb. Or dense. How can he not know ?
I mean, it figures, right ?, that if somebody curses at you, and in a work setting where you are supposed to keep things professional, then you, the cursed person, will be very possibly annoyed or offended and will not want to play best buddies anymore.
Plus, he notices that she is cold / upset, rather than apologizing , or tryng somehow to clear the air, he challenges her ! " I'll make you befriend me again " :
Dumb.
He tries to get under her skin and get a reaction out of her by being flirtatious and chummy with the other cowowrker, - he is tryng to make her jealous.
I think the first coworker is doing right by giving him the silent treatment. Nobody needs a friend or a suitor that curses you out and plays silly power games .
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe was always heard telling her how she makes him laugh.(she use to make a lot of sarcastic, but very hilarious remarks, mostly towards him. But he would laugh at them,even if she was talking to someone else. He jokingling told her he loved her after laughing at her remark. But ever since that day we heard him cursing at her for some work issue, she totally changed how she dealt with him. Thats when things turned sour between them. Especially after he told her he was going to make her befriend him again. Appearantly, because of her silent treatment, he doesnt know that her coldness towards him came from that incident.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (11 April 2016):
Its clear that he had feelings for the other co worker, she turned him down, probably because of the fact that he has a girlfriend so she wanted to do the right thing, he took this as a rejection, he spat out his dummy and got moody. Now he is flirting with the other co worker to try and get some of his ego back, it is possible that he wants to make the other coworker jealous and thinks that by flirting with another coworker he will get back in to her good books. If I was either coworker I would be careful as he is clearly a player and only thinks of himself and nobody else's feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2016): Clearly, he's nursing a badly bruised ego. I wouldn't allow myself to be used either to boost his self-esteem or exact revenge from the one who dumped him. In the first place, an office relationship is a huge mistake. Steer clear.
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