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36-40,
*rown_maggot
writes:I'm not sure how to go about this. Just let's say that I have some serious issues that would probably prevent me from ever developing a successful relationship with someone. For starters, I was a late bloomer sexually speaking, with my sex life only taking off after I turned 24. As a result, I'm somewhat sexually impaired and tend to suffer from a rather frustrating condition that some might term chronic premature ejaculation. As if that wasn't embarrassing enough, all my subsequent sexual experiences have been with sex workers. While I have no problem with getting intimate with them, I tend to be extremely awkward around normal women who aren't employed by the commercial sex industry. And if I do get into a serious relationship with someone, I have no idea how I’d broach to them that I’ve slept with sex workers in the past. Male purveyors of commercial sexual services are regarded as a prime vector for STDs, so you’d understand why most women would have reservations about dating me. I guess the question that I’m asking is, do I have a chance in hell? 50 dollar per pop hookers can be pleasant, but it’d be nice for a change to sleep with a woman who wasn’t paid to do it.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (11 September 2012):
 Hey pal im a late bloomer too i lost mine at age 25 sadly enough n now i find myself playing catch up. I lost mine to a sex worker too ill say and have been with ten more since. Ive been with normal women too and to attract them its a formula on psychology. Dont listen to those who tell u to be urself. Some men are naturals at getting laid others arent those of us who lack such amazing ability must adapt. Read and watch a lot of self help stuff about improving ur personality david de angelo is excellent as well as neil strauss. Weight lifting has vastly and i mean vastly improved my confidence with women. Do it. What woman on this earth dun enjoy a nice body? Just dont workout only for women. Its done my head in in a way. As far as premature ejac some women take it as a compliment others care. I wouldnt think a sex worker would care cause she just wants money. Focus on developing a new YOU and ease of the paying for business. Good luck.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (10 September 2012):
 Instead of trying to overcome your fears all at once, why not tackle one at a time? First get used to just being with 'normal' women. Go out on dates to places and/or at times of day when sexual intimacy cannot occur. Go for coffee or for lunch and put a time limit on it.
Do interesting things like visit the museum, visit a sports or music hall of fame, an historical site, or take a tour of the city. Not only would that kind of outing make you seem cultured and more interesting but it would give you both something to talk about besides yourselves.
When you have a 'her' to go out with, let her know ahead of time, conversationally of course, that you're getting together with family or friends or something afterward. Knowing when the date will end may help reduce your anxiety (and hers). Don't go into too many details especially if you have to make something up, but don't be too vague that she suspects you've got a date with someone else after her.
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